Hello. Anyone There?

[Previous Rural Farmgirl, April 2009 – May 2010]
Do you remember when children would make a phone by taking two tin cans and tying them to the opposite ends of some string? I recall doing this in elementary science class. We took two large paper cups or tin cans, punched a hole in the bottom center of each can or cup, then cut about 100 feet of kite string, pulled the string through both cups and tied it down. The key, of course, was to keep the string pulled tight, allowing the sound waves to travel across the string and into the other cup.

Continue reading

  1. Cyndarella says:

    This is a "brilliant" statement on listening! Active listening is an art that is learned. If I could learn the art I would have many many friends. People love to know you are listening to them. Thank you for the blog.

  2. Reba says:

    What a great blog, Rene! And so timely. I was just thinking on that same verse this week and making a conscious effort to think of all the things that I felt were true, noble, right, pure, and lovely. As I did I could feel myself rising above the mundane useless things that sometimes weighs us down. I felt my spirit lifting and before I knew it, I felt like putting music on the stereo. It was amazing how the thought suddenly occurred to me that "there is so much to think of that is good and so much time has been wasted!" I am making an effort to keep those thoughts foremost in my mind so that as noise-makers come my way I do not let them steal my thoughts. Thanks for the encouragement that you have given.

  3. Carrie says:

    So true. As a music teacher I am always saying ,"Are you listening to what I am saying?" "Are you listening to what you are playing? What others are playing?" I probably say "listen" 100 times a week! However, often times, it is I who is guilty of not listening. I think we are so use to half-listening that we forget to truly hear.

  4. Gary says:

    This is a very profound and timely Bloggie Rene’, and you hit several "nails" on the head. I am also keenly aware when someone listens, and I find I must also practice the art of listening, as it is not a passive mental activity. It feels very fullfilling to be "engaged" in conversation, and unfortunately that doesn’t happen often.
    I also find fault with technology in the demise of interpersonal skills, which is rampant in our culture, and I place primary blame on tee vee. Most people aren’t used to reading and thinking and developing an idea or opinion. Viewers of tee vee are used to being "told", and what passes as conversation these days is more like two people swapping disconnected statements about the same subject, with one thinking of what to say next while the other is talking, instead of actually listening. It’s sad.
    On a brighter note, it is so refreshing and gives such a feeling of connection, when we do encounter a person like the Gentleman you describe, and we remember those moments, and look froward to seeing them again. Like a lone Daisy in a field of dry grass, those people look positively beautiful.
    GodSpeed to Y’all…
    Gary
    in Tampa

    Very well said Gary.. see I am listening :)… and learning.

  5. Rene, you have done it again! This must be ‘hit home’ week. I started working intently on this very process in the last few weeks! And I am really enjoying listening to others. I have to catch myself when I want to interject my thoughts….way too much (old habit). It sure takes practise but I love the results. I even made a new friend and reconnected to an old one.
    This was a wonderful post and I loved every word. Thanks for sharing what and how you feel!

  6. Catherine says:

    Thank you for this timely and truth-filled post, Rene.

    It really does make such a difference when we take time to stop and really listen to one another.

    Oh, but that pruning part … that’s not so much fun, necessary but not fun 😉 . You are the second voice to speak that word this week … I must be in for it soon!

    And now, I’m off to make one of those phones, I’ll let my girlies play with it for a while and then find a place to put it as a reminder for myself. Thank you for the great idea.

    Bless you,
    Catherine 🙂

  7. Debbie says:

    What an excellent blog…I have been thinking some of these same thoughts myself….it gets harder and harder to feel "heard" these days. Thanks for saying it all so well.

  8. carla says:

    Your description of the gentlemen from your church, brings back such lovely memories of my dear wonderful late Aunt Dorothy. She was such a wonderful active listener, always making each one of us so special when having a conversation with her. She was also a letter writer. I treasure my saved correspondance with her.
    Thank you for the memory of her today.
    Active listening, letter writing, and better penmanships are all techniques that I am trying to better in myself, and I definitely need the reminder.
    Thank you.

  9. Tammie says:

    Rene,
    As always your blog leaves me inspired.
    I worked with young children for years and the magic that made it work was in believing in them. Children, and people in general, will live up to what you say of them. If you tell a child he/she is brilliant and smart and funny and wonderful…they are. (Unfortunately this works in reverse as well.)
    I can’t remember how many times I’ve told a parent that would be explaining to me how "bad" their child is… to be careful with what they say. The child will live up to it. So what is the worse that can happen when you tell a child he/she is brilliant and smart? There is no worse scenario there.
    Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts.
    Tammie

  10. Raynita says:

    True, so very true:) My daughter and I have been discussing about how people can no longer "sit still". What’s up with this? We find that it is not only a problem for children, but adults as well. How can we listen to others or even be heard ourselves if we can’t be still? Like your son training his puppy, it takes discipline, something that seems to be lost in this time. Psalm 46:10 "Be still, and know that I am God." How can we notice the "awesomeness" as we run through life?

  11. KDL says:

    I know what you mean, I watch people and it has become less of an art and more of a battle. Most people don’t really listen to what is being said, rather they prepare a rebuttal or redirect the conversation to something more pertinent to their lives. Conversation is something we are losing as a society. It’s being replaced with an electronic abbreviation. You’re right, text messages and emails have isolated us from the people we need. God created us for fellowship with others as well as with Him. These relationships are the heart and soul of neighbors and families. Society is becoming addicted to the ability to edit and prepare a conversation rather than to "perform live" with those around us. As a terribly shy person I have fought to stay in the mix, but it’s hard. I’ve tried to overcome my short comings with humor, that’s sometimes even worse. It’s much easier to resort to a well prepared email or text message.

  12. Nancy says:

    How right you are, most people don’t take the time to really listen, they are too interested in talking about themselves. My husband and I make it a practice to really listen to each other and other people. If one of us slips, the other one reminds.

  13. Susan Holland says:

    AMEN. Thanks for your astute real-time rendering of that great part of Phillipians and the quote also from Maya Anjelou. You rang some Christmas Bells, sister! Susan

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Who Could Ask For More?

[Previous Rural Farmgirl, April 2009 – May 2010]
In today’s world it may not be politically correct, but I grew up playing that childhood game of cowgirls and Indians, knowing full well that if you were to mix in a little gypsy girl with the cowgirl and the Indian, shake it, then bake it, you would have me: a rural farmgirl. I, like many of my farmgirl friends, do not really “fit” into any one mold. I am as eclectic in my thinking and in my interests as I am in the blood that runs through me.

Continue reading

  1. Charlotte says:

    Rene’ – again you touch a special part of my heart! I hope to find my "badger". Thanks for the inspiration you give us every day!

  2. Teresa Pearson says:

    Dear Rene, I too am a mixture of heritage, with no one nationality to call my own. I have enjoyed reading your Rural Farmgirl Blog as I am a rural farmgirl myself. I have been having some struggles in my life the last year and recently finding MaryJanes Farm and your blog has helped me get through a lot of it. Thanks so much and keep up the good work. I will be watching for more help and inspiration.

  3. Gary says:

    Rene’… Thank You for this welcome break from the troubles of the day…
    You express feelings through words so very well, and this is a touching and poingnant Bloggie.
    Your writing captures a slice of life and transported my mind to that far away place… well done, and today… very timely.
    GodSpeed to Y’all…!
    Gary
    in Tampa

  4. Reba says:

    It is a hard thing, to open our hearts for love, acceptance, and dealing honorably, to find hurtful things or words. But, it shows that you are open. I have found that I have to remain open and vulnerable or I cannot experience the joy and love of life. And that is very tough. But I make the choice to stay open. It is good to hear of how encouragement comes to others. I have had experiences similar to yours and have found at times that I needed those reminders sitting around for comfort, like your little badger.

  5. carol ashby says:

    Thank you to the "Great Spirit" for giving you the writers gift of the heart, insightful wisdom, humor and a forum to share this gift to those of us who need it most.
    I’m going to cut out a picture of a badger and keep it with me as a reminder that I don’t have to carry all the weight alone.
    – Thanks

  6. bonnie ellis says:

    Rene:

     I too am Native American. My totems have been herons, but lately they have been eagles and hawks. I don’t know the true meaning of these in Cherokee but it gives me strength and courage when I see them. I find comfort in nature. I know you are blessed by being able to write from the heart.

    Bonnie

  7. O'Dell says:

    Hi Rene..I am also of mixed heritage..Portugese, French,Swedish, Irish, Welsh,native American going way back. When I was a little girl I often dreamt of doves. I did not understand why until I went into therapy in my late 30’s, to discuss my abusive childhood, and marriage.During this time, I started dreaming of the doves again, but also saw wolves everywhere. The doves seemed to be protecting me, and wolves gave me strength. I also believe they lead me to a better life..as I now have a wonderful man and beautiful grandbabies to love. I think your totems will help you thru the hard times, too. You seem to have a very giving heart….which will be a big blessing to all you gather into your life. Thank you for being here for us!
    O’Dell

  8. Mary Jane says:

    Thank you (from a different Mary Jane that lives in FL)

  9. On another day, the little badger may not have been something you even took notice of, or he simply might not have been around for you to see. I don’t believe in coincidence.

    I needed to be lifted up some years back…feeling weary and discouraged. I didn’t want to ride, but we had to. While out I felt better in the fresh air…and then I spied the eagle feather and the verse about renewed strength…’and they shall mount up as eagles’ came to me in a whisper.

    I do know how you feel. Encouragement can come from any direction…just like love. shery jespersen

  10. suzy says:

    Both sides of my family are of Scotch/Irish and Native American decent. I am a true believer that people and things come into our lives for a reason. I have been really busy lately,but I am so glad I took time to read this blog. Thanks ,Blessings to you and Love to all, Suzy, Texas

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

The Plot Thickens

[Previous Rural Farmgirl, April 2009 – May 2010]
Family has been on my mind a lot lately. Perhaps it is because my two oldest sons, who have been out of country, are home for their first visit in nearly a year. Maybe it is because the holiday season seems to be approaching like a runaway locomotive that no one can slow down. Or just maybe it is the farm tours and the pumpkin patches and apple cider festivals that I have attended on the last few weekends that have me feeling all warm, fuzzy, and reflective.

(Thomas now 22, Lucas 21)

Continue reading

  1. Betsy says:

    Unfortunately there is only by sister and I left of our family. I am fortunate to have 3 children. One daughter lives with us with her son of 12 because of her health issues. I have a daughter with 2 young children and hour away and see her weekly plus plan holidays for all to attend. However, my son and his wife and 2 year old son live in mainland China where my son met his wife while he was teaching English in a university. Last year on Christmas eve we sat down in front of our computer and watched them open their presents with the grandchild running to the computer cam to show us what he got. It was exciting but also sad as I just want them home. Everyone needs to enjoy their families whether they are small or large. Do whatever you can to be together. God bless you and give you a wonderful holiday.

  2. O'Dell says:

    Hi Rene,
    You are right about not having "Rockwell" pictures of many families. I do have to dig deep to find good memories of my childhood, but they are there. I recall helping fix Thanksgiving dinners,getting all dressed up, and eating in our dining room (reserved for special holidays). The aroma of the fresh bread, and stuffed turkey was wonderful..I recall looking out to our field, and seeing the beautiful colored leaves, fall being my favorite time of year. We were a large family, with all our different personalities, seemed like there was always a new baby on the way…life was chaotic at best. These days, with my children grown, and now with 5 little grandchildren, I make sure that we have lots of fun, so they will have good memories of times past, when they are grown. We play games, bake cookies, and watch their favorite movies together. I too, have one son who lives away, and I miss him greatly. But this is what he has chosen for his life and I feel I must let him live his own life. I look forward to seeing the little ones, and when I’m not with them, I’m usually busy making them new dresses,or pajamas..or a needlepoint picture for their rooms. Being a grandma is the best thing ever, for sure!
    so, happy Halloween to you……and all the other bloggers!
    O’Dell

  3. Loretta Hoffman says:

    Rene, You will not believe this, but my son who has married a Brit and now resides in England, showed up at our country home in the middle of September. There are 7 siblings, with the yougest daughter being the central figure of the family. This was the first time they had all been together in 12 years. Tom left to return home yesterday, and now God in His infinite grace and wisdom allowed me to read what you are sharrin. It is such a peaceful feeling just knowing there is another person who understands the many feelings of this blessing.
    Happy Autumn and continue to enjoy the beauty.

  4. Laurel says:

    I want to thank you for this blog. Just 2 weeks ago I had a big fight with my son. I thought we had put a gigantic wedge between us. I have apologized for my actions. The phone conversation still felt a little cool. He is coming home this week end I will get to see if things are better. I think I may share this blog with him.
    Family is important and it is just the 4 of us. No extended family (or very little and not close). I have dreamed that someday we would have a big Christmas with the grandkids and a table full of wonderful goodies.
    Thanks again

    Best of wishes to you and your son Laurel. I want it all to turn out well for the both of you.

  5. Michele Kirkman says:

    Rene’, You are so right about grabbing those precious moments when you can.
    My sweet husband died almost 10 years ago when my son was 16. My son became even more special to me and we have been closer than most moms and sons I know.
    I never want to miss a minute of what is happening im his life.
    Jared got married a year ago and luckily, for me, his bride loves me and understands my son’s and my bond.

    Life is too short and precious to miss any of the moments Rockwell like or not
    Michele

  6. Gary says:

    Thank You Rene’, for sharing precious memories of time spent with Family. We have all spent times like that with our Families, and the places where we spent those times will always have a Special feel about them.
    I also find those feelings well-up when I am in similar places that remind me of bygone times that will live forever in my Heart.
    GodSpeed to Y’all…!
    Gary
    in Tampa

  7. Kris says:

    I was having a horrible day before I read your blog. My spirits lifted, the day got better. It disintegrated again. We need to remember that Rockwell knew these things too. Remember the kid with the hobo bundle on a stick at the soda fountain with the policeman who was going to take him home? We can all go home again. Perhaps that is the essence of the farmgirl experience – the knowledge that we are all tied to a certain life.

  8. Bonnie Ellis says:

    Rene: What you are telling us is to have Joy, no matter what family we didn’t or do have. One son lives in Texas and the other is far away also.No parents or grandparents either. I could be sad because they aren’t around, but that’s what memories and photos are for. This year I am digging out photos from the past and will computerize them so I can give some to my kids and put the rest on my small tree. My heart goes out for those who have lost loved ones. Christmas is about joy, and and joyful remembrance. I wish both for everyone. Thanks for the post.

    Bonnie

  9. Kathy Aubrey says:

    Rene,
    Miss you girl. I am glad that we have seen more of each other this past week. You are part of our family.
    Yesterday I took my mom to the Tri-Cities to meet up with cousins and Aunts and Uncle for lunch. My cousins brought my aunt from Lewiston who has Alzheimer and my Aunt and Uncle from Pasco were there My Aunt will be 90 in May and my mom will be 88 in Jan. We girls kept looking at our parents in amazment saying darn we have good genes. We are very lucky to have longevity in our family and we know that we need to get them together more often. So Family reunion time is coming up next year. We are starting to complile all of our information for a family tree for next reunion.
    love your blog and love ya
    Kath

  10. Raynita says:

    Thanks for sharing these very wise words:)

  11. Debbie says:

    Rene, I cried like a baby then laughed and then cried again when I read your blog today. I have been feeling so overwhelmed with taking care of grandchildren and all the other "stuff" in my life right now. With all the work that needs doing I haven’t been able to just be Grandma. After reading your blog though I am reminded that the time I have with them while they are little is limited. Soon they too will grow into young men and women and I want to cherish every minute of "now" with them while I can. Bless you for your thoughtful and insightful writing. Love you girl.

  12. Diane says:

    All I can say is Wow! What a great blog and perfect timing, the Holiday’s can always stir up family issues. I am going to share this with my family and hope that it gives them the same warm feelings that I have when reading it. I look forward to your blog every week. God bless you and have a wonderful Thanksgiving and Christmas.

  13. Reba says:

    You have a way with words that expresses exactly what is in my heart. I only have one daughter, but she is living in the States this year. Yeah!! So, we are enjoying Autumn, and will enjoy the Holidays together!! It doesn’t matter much about gifts, just the gift of Each Other!

  14. Betty says:

    I have not spoken with my brother, nor do I anticipate talking with him, since my mother died in 1999. I don’t know what has happened to our little family, but I think the Viet Nam war really messed him up. But fortunately I am still close with my sister and we speak weekly on the phone. I don’t think I ever knew what closeness was in our family and would like to find it some day. I have my own two sons and we are close–which is very good.
    Betty in Pasco

  15. Holly says:

    Dear Rene,
    Truer words were never spoken! What a wonderful post! It seems like a lot of us were touched by your words.
    I was reading a book today, the Christmas List, and I got to thinking about my attitude towards joy. It seems that we (I) look at people and determine my relationship with them by what joy they bring me. After all, who wants to invest in someone that doesn’t want you around!!! But I’ve come to realize that I’m thinking backwards. The question I need to ask myself is "What joy can I bring them?" Not only to I get the gift of giving to someone else, but it’s often doubled by what they give back. And even if they don’t, I’ve been blessed in the process.
    I have such fond memories of family gatherings when I was young, but due to scatterings, deaths and frankly, not wanting to put effort into it, many of those times have slipped away and my kids have not been able to grow up with those same experiences that I had as a kid. We’ve been able to rekindle a few things lately. It’s funny how I dread the effort and inconvenience, yet come away from such a gathering so thankful that I did it. I need to do it more.
    Happy Anniversary! What a wonderful legacy to your children…they obviously think so too!!
    Blessings to you Rene!
    Holly

  16. Kathy Eckholt says:

    My biggest fantasy is to someday have all my sisters living in the same place, kind of a compound sort of thing. Where we can eat breakfast together in our jammies if we want. I live next door to our Mom and one sister lives 45 minutes away, another two hours away, the third six hours away and one 12 hours away. We are quite close, of course we have our squabbles but we all know that we love each other and that is special. But to be able to just chat for no reason and not have to "catch up" on the latest would be so wonderful. We haven’t had a whole family Christmas in years, but I keep hoping someday.

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

More Precious Than Gold

[Previous Rural Farmgirl, April 2009 – May 2010]
Although there have been other places I have visited that have taken me back to days gone by, none compare to my recent trip to Idaho City, Idaho. The old timers there would tell you that the wealth traveled off the mountain during the gold mining days in the mid- to late 1800s. But as a self-proclaimed writer, I would argue that fact. For me, the wealth of that little mining town is in its residents, who not only keep the history alive in the care and keeping of the physical needs of their city but also in the telling of the stories.

Continue reading

  1. Gary says:

    What a wonderful glimpse of a nostalgic yet still vital Community through your words Rene…
    The "Oral Tradition" of passing down accounts of History is very much a part of rural life, and it is an ancient one; predating written History. It comes from a time when a person’s "word", and it’s truth, could be the difference between social acceptance and banishment, even life or death, and it forms the foundation of our system of jurisprudence. One of the oldest books known, The Holy Bible, began in the Oral Tradition, and was not begun to be put into writing until Moses. Faith is a big component of the tradition, and when I think of Faith, I am humbled by the realization that Abraham and Moses had no written Bible. Whatever Faith I think I have pales in comparison.
    It comes as no surprise that you found great Hope among those people, as Hope is usually hand in hand with Faith, and I bet you felt another thing yet unmentioned about them and their mountain… Love.
    Thank You for this rare glimpse of people living a can-do lifestyle… it’s very re-freshing and Inspiring.
    GodSpeed to Y’all…!
    Gary
    in Tampa

  2. jami says:

    Was fortunate to go there a few years back, it was a wonderful place to visit. The people band together with pride and for security. Living in a rugged place like that you do depend on each other and suport one another. I was blessed to live in one such place for 20 years, I gleened from my neighbors and felt community with them. Places only give the stage, its the people with grit who give it depth. Great writing Rene, love to hear from you!

  3. Julie says:

    I’m feeling a bit homesick at the moment. I’ve recently moved to England, but I’ve lived in Boise, ID for the last 11 years. My grandparents own a cabin near Idaho City and one of my best memories when staying at the cabin is driving into Idaho City for ice cream at Delsa’s. There was also a public swimming pool there when I was a child that was fed by hot springs. Hot spring swimming and ice cream. It doesn’t get any better than that 🙂

  4. Michele says:

    Renee,
    Thanks again for allowing me to travel vicariously through your experiences.As I get to know more of my Farmgirl sisters I wonder" Where have you been all of my life?"
    It is so much easier to live the lifestyle that is right for me when I know there are some out there who understand and applaud it. Even my grown children are often caught up in the popular mentality of having it all. Well., I know I have it all and need nothing more to make me happy but the friendship of my sisters, the recipes, books and philosophies we share and the differences between us that keep me on my toes and keep me open minded
    Michele

  5. Rose says:

    Thank you Rene’ for such a beautiful story. You are truly a gifted writer that has the rare talent of painting a picture with words. We so loved your visit and we all felt like we had known you for years. Thanks again for sharing your experience with us.

  6. CherylK says:

    I’d love to visit Idaho City…the very next time I travel west from Minnesota to Washington (where my sisters live), I believe I’ll make it a point to stop there.

    The farmgirls "make do" philosophy reminds me of the philosphy of a favorite home decorator, Kitty Bartholomew. She always said, "It’s not what you don’t have; it’s what you do with what you DO have!" So true.

  7. Dalyn says:

    Years ago, my family and I spent a wonderful day there…loved it. Seemed like such a magical place to live.

  8. Reba says:

    We went through that area this summer on vacation. Now after reading your blog, I feel like I have had an opportunity to get to know the people. Thank you for your writing (self-proclaimed is being aware of who you are, which I think is great!). I long for a farm in the mountains of western NC or eastern TN. The blog reminds me of those type of people in that area, where my mom and dad are from, community!!

  9. Bruno says:

    Tiffany . Is that not a fabulous find??!! I have a book about utlnziiig found objects to create artists books. One of the projects uses this colorful, square egg carton. I had no idea where to find them until on a trip to Santiago (would love to go again!), they had their eggs for sale in these very cartons! Bring green, orange, yellow . woohooo! Guess what got packed to come home with me~ of course, without the eggs!

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Good-bye Old Friend

[Previous Rural Farmgirl, April 2009 – May 2010]
I hate goodbyes, even the ones that are just for a little time. I have never been good at them; they seem so final. It is heartbreaking to have to part with anything or anyone that I really enjoy being with. So this past week, when I had to say good bye to some of my veggie gardens, it was a little sad. I always feel a little like a traitor when I have to go and yank the tomato plants out by their roots (these same plants that just weeks ago brought me so much joy) and to till under all the plants that have been so full of life. I cannot help but to think back to what seems like a few moments before, when I was planting the garden. Now, as the chilly air of fall blows up my spine, I have to say good-bye once again.

Continue reading

  1. nameEileen Pena says:

    I agree it is a sad time of year. I don’t like the next season at all except I am plan on getting new quilting projects done and a newly decorated sewing room. That keeps me going thru the bitter midwest winter. Then before you know it, it is Spring.

  2. Heather Jackson says:

    I so agree with your sentiments! Love your blog!

  3. Christine says:

    I’m the same way. I will miss my vegetable garden and my flowers. I could garden all year long. But living in Indiana we have the seasons that change. Yes my pantry looks wonderful all full of the yummy food that we grew. Will taste so good this winter! As always enjoyed your writings. God Bless

  4. Gary says:

    Excellent idea for a Winter Garden Rene’…!
    I shall try it when I move Home to Tennessee next year…
    meanwhile…
    I shall send this link to my Friend Trudi in Canada, as she will enjoy having a Garden in the Winter.
    Thanks, and…
    GodSpeed to Y’all…!
    Gary
    in Tampa

  5. Clare Deane says:

    I have wanted to have a cold frame for winter for some time now, but I keep procrastinating. I like your thinking though and may get one going after your description of the frame and the winter goodies I can reap. My Mom is canning and drying for the winter and I get to enjoy to share in her bounty, but I live 335 miles from her, so I can’t go to the yard when the urge hits me. I miss not having a garden.

  6. Bonnie ellis says:

    Rene: In Minnesota, saying goodbye to the garden usually means saying goodbye to green. Everything dies, the leaves fall and the snow and cold comes. The only bright side when the holidays are over is that winter is the perfect time to snuggle in and make quilts. But we always look forward to green again in the spring.

  7. Bonnie says:

    Gee, I thought I was the only one who felt this way! You, though, are much more disciplined at keeping records. I will just give in to the frenzy next spring and buy and plant.
    I will definitely miss the warm rich taste of a just picked tomato! You are right. The imposters in the market just won’t cut it. Here’s looking to spring!

  8. Holly says:

    While it’s sad to say good’bye to the garden, I also love being able to tidy it up and put it to rest. I too am looking forward to the rest, and the planning of next years plot! It gives me great comfort to have my freezers and pantry full, knowing that provisions are stored for the winter ahead. Thanks for sharing!! Holly

  9. Phyllis Lloyd says:

    I so understand–had my first, for real garden this year and I am no spring chicken. I also just discovered MaryJane mag and uprooted, what I always suspected and dreamed of, I too am a "Farmgirl". Now I will venture into the world of canning or preserving next year and can not wait. Montana is my home, so I am saying good bye to all those plants too. What a wonderful time I have had and much I will miss the gardent this winter. But how excited I am for the times to come and the chance to learn how deep my "Farmgirl" roots really are. (It really is fun to read and participate in the blogging world, just discovered this too.) Thanks

  10. Tena says:

    Rene
    I enjoyed your article and even have an appointment to change my hair to winter colors tomorrow. I will share the cold frame idea with some friends. Like you, me and many of my friends don’t yet have a greenhouse.

  11. Mary Frantic' Rauch says:

    Gee, I really enjoyed that read about saying goodbyes. I never knew other people thought that way also…My pansies keep saying "not yet please", and my kale and swiss chard say, "will you harvest me for New Year’s Eve as you’ve done a few years in the past?" .. Time will tell. Although I live in Ohio, I am a true deep-south gal in heart and mind…Change of subject:
    When do we get to see pics of the new haircolor that I heard mentioned?

  12. JoEllen says:

    Such sweet words for the plants that have given so much to provide for the cold months ahead! Someday I will be a good gardener like you, but for now its just a few tomato plants and zucchini who love you and produce no matter how much of a novice you are!!! Hardly any sun in our back yard — do we drastically trim our big fir tree to let in more light or be creative and plant raised gardens wherever the sun shines?? I think the latter — I’m planning ahead on how to fix this dilemma. You write so poetically Rene — such a treat to read each week!

    Thank You SOOO much!

  13. Marrina Frederick says:

    Good fall to you Rene,
    AAAAHHHH yes, it’s time to put our freind to bed for the winter.It’s been a VERY fruitful year for the whole garden excepy my zucchini,HA- go figure. I had to get them from girl freinds much to their humor.
    The last couple of years my husband decided he liked gardening, actually the weeding.HA- what a sweetie.He could never figure why I put all the effort into it when I can just go to the store. Silly town boy.After 17 years of this attitude , HE SAW THE LIGHT. OOOOOHHHH God is good.
    I love your blog. A good winter to you.
    Marrina

  14. LisaLu says:

    I too share the sadness, but I also enjoy saving the seeds for next year’s offspring!

    The leaves are changing, apples & cinnamon are calling, and I think a nice cup of tea, with a fire going, and my crochet hook is all I need. Fall is my favorite time to be home with all the comforts. We all need to be thinking of the holidays that are right around the corner….so much to do, so little time……before we know it… spring planting time will be here!
    If I could just figure out how to add more hours to each day, and at least two extra days a week…maybe I could get it all done!

    I just got a craving for persimmon cookies…mmmm!

    Happy Autumn to all!
    LisaLu

  15. Lynn Spang says:

    I am newly aware of maryjanesfarm as my friend of 32 years(can it be?) just gave it to me as a birthday(yes, another one!) gift. What a pleasant surprise! I have lived in a rural area all my life and have by turns taken pleasure in gardening, yard work, crafts, etc. I am always amazed by God’s natural color palette in the spring and fall. Here in the Ohio valley we are at peak conditions for viewing the fall leaves. The crisp temperatures bring favorite pumpkin recipes to mind along with memories of my Mom. Thank you for reminding me of all the best things!

  16. judy says:

    Hi Rene, I too would like a greenhouse. My dad had 2.One was small to start the seeds while it was yet winter. One was big for transplanting/and selling from. The small one was attached to our house in an L-cove in the corner by my bedroom and our livingroom. I’d watch daddy watering his seedlings and he’d squirt me with the waterhose sometimes.Those times are deeply special to me now since we lost Daddy this past Feb. I too would like to build a cold frame. Do you have instructions on here someplace? Thanks! I really enjoy your Blog! Oh ya, I’d like to see(ahem) your new "Doo" too!

  17. Carrie M says:

    Hey Rene-

    I am saying the same sad goodbyes, here in New York. We’ve picked all the tomatoes and melons and peppers. The garden is mostly bare except for some beets that are holding on. We’ve had a week of hard frost in our area that has only slightly scorched us here on our south-facint hill, but the cold is on it’s way.

    However, we are comforted here by the brilliant colors of fall, something that makes us want to hop in our cars and take a ride just to breath the fresh air and take in the scenery! When I was in Washington for farm fair, a young man at the hotel said that he had heard that northeasterners do such things and he had always thought that was a "fable"…I assured him that we really DO go out "leaf-peeking," and we get a lot of leaf-peeking realated tourism, to boot!!

    Where did you get the plans for your cold frame?? I want to build one, even have the windows, but I was unsuccessful last time. Nothing grew!! I have lovely south sun, too 🙁

    Love to all the Prosser ladies!

    carrie

    PS…read your "When Pigs Fly" just before I read this one and am soooooo sorry that is what you had! Your description makes me terrified…enough to maybe go get a shot which I’ve never considered before! Glad you are better 🙂

    Carrie,

    Fall decided to show up here in the last few days as well.. I was afraid we were going straight from Summer to Winter, so I too am enjoying the fall colors. I found great cold frame ideas through goggle. If you are too cold, try digging up the dirt and laying down some plastic inside the frame on the bottom and sides. Poke some holes for water drainage in the bottom and add some rocks for drainage… then fill the dirt back in…. The plastic adds an additional layer of insulation, also re-putty your windows so that cold air is limited.  Let me know how it goes….  We so loved meeting you at farmfair and of course have made you an honorary prosserfarmgirl…..


     

  18. I go through the same thing every year! I hate to take in my garden for the winter, but I do enjoy the break from yardwork and gardening to enjoy indoor activities, such as cooking and craftwork.

  19. Debbie says:

    Rene, Oh so true.But, since this was my 1st garden in many years (we won’t go into HOW MANY!)I actually enjoyed putting my garden to bed for the winter as it is my very first year ever having a compost box. So, I am looking forward to using all that good compost in the spring. I haven’t yet built a cold box (Linda will encourage one soon I am sure) I won’t have any fresh from my garden veggies. But, I did freeze and dry so I am ahead of last year and the many years before. Thank you for all you teach and share with others. You have a generous and giving soul.See you later friend. Debbie

  20. Hi Rene`, I really enjoyed this article and without you knowing it, I’ve been given new hope! We live on the windswept plains which is NOT a place for a garden. Your old window is an idea I NEEDED. Now to find some! My husband is bringing home an old leaky stock tank for a ‘raised bed’ and now I get to add a new form of ‘window box’. Thank you for the inspiration. Shery Jespersen

  21. Catherine says:

    I really enjoyed the article, and made me think of hot beds again to keep cutting my mustard greens longer and arugla. Thanks for taking me to the garden again. Here in Indiana it is getting pretty cold in the middle of Nov.
    Thanks.

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

When Pigs Fly

[Previous Rural Farmgirl, April 2009 – May 2010]
There I was, completely sprawled out on the sofa begging the gods of all things to please stop the room from spinning.

Continue reading

  1. Janice says:

    I am so gald you are feeling better. Being sick is no fun thing.
    I found your blog and enjoy reading it.
    I live on the east coast. Lots of talk now about the swine flu.
    Always,

  2. Debbie says:

    Rene, you definitely have my sympathy and prayers. I hope that you are feeling much better. I had to smile when you wrote about working while you were not feeling too well. why is it that women, especially Mom’s seem to keep on keepin on when thy should be keepin still? Give your body the rest it needs and then you can get back to writing to us about all you wonderful adventures. Blessings to you, Debbie

  3. So glad you are feeling better, just in time too, our Fall Funky Junk Sisters Show is just around the corner. We are just a hop skip and a jump from you. We hope you can make it! We have doubled the size of the show and we have so many fantastic vendors coming.

    We love your blog and visit it often!

    Linda & Dixie
    The Funky Junk Sisters

  4. Carol McElroy says:

    I am so sorry you became ill after leaving our fair city, and I know Wende was ill as well. I’m so glad you are feeling better. I know sometime I’d rather be sick than have my hubby sick, he complains more thatn I do. Be careful of those flying pigs………Carol

    Carol, Thanks for much. I had the best time in Kansas, you were all the perfect hostesses.. thank you all

  5. bonnie ellis says:

    Take a deep breath Rene and think I’m over it" and enjoy fall. Don’t even think how awful it was. I’m glad you are better! Great maybe. You go girl and enjoy life again. God bless.

    Bonnie Ellis

    🙂

  6. Gary says:

    I’m glad you’re all better now Rene’… it’s miserable being ill, and nothing seems to make it better as fast as we wish.
    You used my fave remedie: Epsom Salts… once a week I enjoy a HOTTT soak in Epsom Salts and WOW do the impurities of the body get drawn out. Just a good foot soak after a long day on my feet makes them feel brand new and tingly.
    GodSpeed as you return to Life…!
    Gary
    in Tampa

    I love the stuff, too…Works every time.

  7. Sandy says:

    I have always loved "when pigs fly" My mom and dad always said it. My dad is now gone and mom is almost 90 and I miss those good old days. It was usually in response to me wanting to do something I probably shouldn’t. My own children think I’m really weird when I say it, but I don’t care. Maybe some day they will miss it too. I love the poster too. I hope your feeling better and just glad you didn’t get it on your trip. Sometimes us moms just forget to slow down and take care of ourselves. We think will do it "when pigs fly" Have a great weekend, pamper yourself.

  8. Grace~katmom says:

    Oh Rene’,
    you poor thing,,,,,I am soooo glad you are on the upswing & feeling better.
    Sending you lots of "feel better soon" hugz,,,,
    We miss you…so get well & hurry on back up this way lil sister #1281….
    sister hugz,
    gracie #472

  9. Suzy says:

    I am so glad you are better! AND envious of you getting to go to the farm weekend. I enjoy your blogs SO much!!!

  10. Lynn says:

    I am so glad you are feeling better! It is no fun being sick. I am glad you got the quiet you needed to heal. I also love "when pigs fly" quote! It always brings a smile and a laugh! Thanks for the laughter!

  11. Karen/Ga. Girl says:

    Rene,
    So glad you are feeling better and as some of the others said glad you didnt get sick during your trip. It was so funny when I got on this morning and started reading your post and it was talking about pigs, the reason I say this is because I very rarely dream but his morning when I woke up I vaguely remember dreaming about 2 baby piglets what about them I dont know but I do remember the 2 babies so when I saw your post I just smiled.
    God has a way of making us slow down if we dont do it ourselves. But I am sure glad you are on the mend. Take care of yourself amd that sweet family! Blessings,Karen

  12. Betty J. says:

    Oh, Rene, my deepest sympathies are with you. Being sick and away from home is the worst thing possible. I’m glad you are on the mend. Flying pigs is not a good sign.

    Betty in Pasco

  13. Mary Ann says:

    Rene,
    I swear the husband and I both had h1n1 in May. We were so sick, we laid on the bed next to each other (not touching, that would have hurt)3 days. We knew we were sick when we were too sick to even be cross with one another. At one point, we wondered if either of us could stand up to let the dog out.

    Glad you are better now!

  14. Michele says:

    Sorry to hear that you have been sooooo sick. I hope you will soon be back to your chipper self.
    Take good care of yourself in the meantime and remember that it is okay to pamper yourself a little bit now and then

  15. Wende says:

    I know exactly how you were feeling. I wonder if WE picked up a bug at the casino. Everything was perfect until Sunday morning. Bed rest and hot tea for three days and "viola" I finally felt normal. Maybe it was the waitress? I know I won’t have her again!

    Can’t thank you enough for your visit and health sacrafice you made to come to KC. We welcome you, and any farmgirl who would like to visit our meetings, anytime and we will spray with Lysol, too.

    Take care,
    WENDE

  16. Heather Hansen says:

    Oh, I feel for you…I’ve had some days like that at work…although I think in my version, I would be rewarded with a trip to The Webster (a knitting shop in Ashland, OR)…or Barnes & Noble…to get a "celebrate getting better" book or some yarn…Glad you are feeling better 🙂

  17. Robin says:

    You aren’t kidding Rene! We just got over the swine flu as well. First my husband, then me (the caregiver), then my daughter…fortunately she wasn’t nearly as bad as we were and my two boys were untouched. I’ve never coughed so hard in my life. I mean literally until I cried. I feel your pain and boy am I glad it’s over. 🙂

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Changes

[Previous Rural Farmgirl, April 2009 – May 2010]
This past week I have been faced with a lot of it…change, that is. The seasons are changing. I see evidence of it daily, with the nights arriving earlier and earlier and the coolness in the morning air. I even changed my hair, getting rid of my blonde streaks and adjusting to a darker color again. I have noticed the leaves changing on the tree outside my home office, and the grape leaves are changing color on the vines. I even changed some of the clothes in my closet, getting rid of some summer things and unpacking and washing some of my fall things. I have also been looking at my office and thinking of all the changes I anticipate making to it this fall and winter.

Continue reading

  1. Mary Murphy says:

    I can certainly empathize with the lack of stick-to-it-tiveness. For most of this year I have felt the need to master something. I have countlessly reviewed subjects, crafts, and on and on and on. Nothing touched my heart; nothing settled my mind.

    Frustrated I started pondering the "why": why can’t I settle on something? As I let my mind roll unheeded with the waves coming to shore a thought rested on the sand: life is seasonal. Master living seasonally and you master life. The master is no better than the servant and the servant is no better than the master. Master and servant are equal. Master and servant are one.

    I am like the seasons. I change throughout the year only to return again the next year. Without change their is no life. I am mastering life by being one with the seasons.

  2. Karen says:

    Oh I so understand I have just started my life change of eating heathier and trying to get some of my weight off, and I have good news, so far I have lost 9lbs!!! I am thrilled. I was in a size 20 and can get into some 16’s!!! I would like to get back down to a size 12. I do know that it wont be an overnight journey but my bags are packed and Im in it for the long haul. So heres to change! Keep that light forever burning! Blessings,Karen

  3. Marilyn says:

    You go girl! I was going to suggest you read The Prayer of Jabez and Beyond Jabez — but see that you re-read The Dream Giver. I too have similar goals as yours and the border bullies are mighty!

    I wish you the very best. You know you can do it. I believe that contentment keeps me from being as ambitious as I once was. And I know that age has diminished my stamina, tho not my interests.

    I am currently reading Beyond Jabez and I recommend it to everyone — it causes me to "think" and the "think differently" and I like that.

    Best Wishes on all your endeavors. And thanks for taking the time to blog — I enjoy what you share.

    Marilyn

  4. michele says:

    "hide it under a bushel? No, I’m gonna let it shine".
    You left that part out and that is what I see in you constantly on the MJF website. You are always lifting up others and offering support. Soooo you go girl and let that light shine even more.
    Farmgirl Hugs, Michele

    WOW, thank you so very much… I love our farmgirls and consider it one of lifes riches blessings that I get to shine light on the brilliance of others…I think that is what "sisters" are for.. to brag on the other… thank you for honoring me by such beautiful words, I am fighting back the tears even as I type.

  5. Becky says:

    Rene,

    This statement really got me today:

    I have come to the awareness that change is inevitable. It happens with our involvement or without it. We can be leading it, or we can be dragged kicking and screaming behind it. Either way change wins.

    We live in Missouri and we just found out that we have to move to Iowa for a job and have been kicking and screaming but you are right "Either way change wins" and we are going.

    Thanks for the nice post.

    Becky

    Becky,

    Change can be unsettling for sure. But it can also bring a huge amount of joy. Introducing us to things and people we would never have experienced. My hubby and I moved several times as young marrieds, today I am blessed with friends all over the place… what a rich gift that I would have missed out on had I not given into change. Best wishes.. Keep me updated.

  6. Blair says:

    I am amazed at how often you are able to put into words my exact feelings that I can’t seem to organize well enough to write down myself…or maybe it’s just that I don’t make myself sit down and do it. I’ve been scared in the last couple years with the idea of one day looking back and having regrets about things I did not try and it being too late at that point. (physically unable). I used my 29th b-day (last year of my twenties) as a reason to take more chances, try new things, follow through on some of my dreams and ideas. I have a long way to go, but I’m getting there.
    I feel exactly the same about change: I like to think that I like it, it’s exciting, but when it comes down to making the call, making the change, I chicken out. But at least I recongnize it, so there’s hope!
    Thank you for your fantastic blogs. I always feel like I’ve gotten something off my chest after reading them
    Blair

  7. Grace~katmom says:

    You are soooo right, and while we (me)may at times try to resist change, there is a reason for it….and we all need it to help us grow mentally, physically & spiritually.  After all, if there were no movement of the pond water it would become stagnant. We too need "movement" even if it is just a simple little thing like changing our hair color. (which by the way – I was really good at! lol!)
    hugz & farm girl blessings to you.

  8. What a great post. I think humility keeps us in check …by design. Personal power can be too easily turned on and turned loose at times it really doesn’t serve a good purpose. Kept in check, like two powerful draft horses in work harness, great strength goes to a good cause. Humility is our balancing agent. We need it. :o) shery

  9. Reba says:

    I heard once that "a rut is a grave with both ends kicked out." And that "insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results." I realized from these sayings that life is change and change is life! The quicker that I can embrace it, the better I will be as a more complete person. It doesn’t mean that sometimes it won’t be difficult. I have found that change also does not mean that you will not re-visit some of the things that you did in the past. This is where I have been lately. I think I’m enjoying it more the second time, maybe because I’m at a different season (age) in my life. Whatever the reason I feel so much more contentment now. Thanks for the thoughts. They seem to pull out what is currently going on in my life into the "light" so that I can more clearly examine and appreciate them. Keep writing! I appreciate it!

  10. Wendy C says:

    This has been a huge year of change for me. I figured out that on average I have weighed between 230-250lbs for the past 20 yrs. In March I started OA (Over eaters Anonymous)and I have lost 65lbs to date. Really the problem lies between my ears, food is just the symptom of the problem. I exercise 3 days a week (swimming for 1 hr). I am still grappling with the reasons I don’t stick to things. I thought I was a master of change (I moved 17 times in 10 yrs in my 20’s). I am constantly changing my ideas about what I want to do. Finishing my first quilt was a HUGE accomplishment and since then I have made 6 more. I’m still trying to figure out "what am I here for". But, when I stop and look at just today and not try to project out to the future I am a much more peaceful person. I know what I love. I love to cook and healthy foods are what I love to share, I love quilting and embroider, and this year I have found the love of growing my own food. I know in my heart that having property and growing more food for my family and perhaps having stand at a local farmers market would be a dream. We are planning a move to the eastern side of Washington State in the next few years so that we can do this. There will always be "scary" things, but I’m getting better at not letting them get in my way. Right now I homeschool my youngest and that’s my priority. I fill in what little hours I have left with the other loves of my life. I liked your analogy of "jack of all trades, master of none". I think this is ok. We are well rounded and feeding that creative and adventurous God light within ourselves. You go for your dreams girl! You never know where those dreams will lead you too. You are open and receptive to you good! And that’s always good!

  11. Gary says:

    There’s a Great photo of you Rene’ on page 60 of the October-November Mary Janes Farm magazine, in it your are described as "Farm Fair Organizer"… The best thing about the photo is your expression of relaxed Happiness.
    Your skills at "organizing" are apparently excellent and well known, so when you get these "three things" organized in a way that you are relaxed and Happy with, you will do well at them.
    The thing that makes your writing so interesting to read is your ability to convey feelings within your words, because your best writing is from the Heart of what you know. Your feeling comes through in this Bloggie too… a feeling of indecision, which is ok… everyone can relate to that, especially if it involves the "D" word.
    Ahhh… diets are like casino gambling… the dieter is the player and their body is the "House", and just like in casinos, the House never loses in the long run. I’ve been on diets and "won" big and flashed my winnings for all to see, but the house never stops playing, and pound by pound I put back all this pounds I won eventually. It wasn’t until I stopped diets and timetables and weigh-ins and just changed my eating lifestyle that I was able to maintain a good weight. I don’t know what is good for anyone else, however I have one piece of advise (ohhh doesn’t everyone) on weight: Positive Focus… take Joy in what you CAN have and don’t even think about what you can’t.
    GodSpeed to Y’all Rene’…!
    Gary
    in Tampa

     

    Thanks for the wise words……and for always reading the blog and the Magazine….. How special!

  12. Patsy says:

    I watched a positive speaker on PBS many years ago. I can’t remember her name. She changed it all for me. She said, " Are you going to sit in a rocking chair in a dark room till you are a size 8?" "Get out and do what you want to do now. Yes, it’s healthier to be less weight but it will come. Stop using the I’ll-do-this-when-I-lose-some-weight excuse" she said. Life is not a dress rehearsal.
    …..and what she changed for me? I started my own business of pampering women on retreat. Only regret – I should have done it sooner. One of her biggest tips: Surround yourself with only positive people. We all know the Debbie Downer kind – avoid them like the plague.

  13. Robin D. Shimpa says:

    Rene, I so identify with your sentiments! I am usually to busy doing school work, working, etc. lately to read your blog, but did this time and was pleasantly refreshed. I know what I want to be when I grow up – so am finishing my BA degree at the age of 56! – and the balance I am searching for in my life to quilt, read, do research, go camping with my husband occasionally, do some canning and jelly making, have the grandchildren over to play on the swingset, all…the…things I want to do, and so little time. I just need to remember to stop and breath and tell myself it’s okay, I’m getting there! Thanks for your encouraging words to me today.

    ~Robin

  14. Teri says:

    Your words hit home today. I had my knee replaced recently and I have used every excuse there is to not buckel down and do the work to loose the 50 pounds that need to come off. I am always afraid that someone will say…"my, you have lost weight". Silly, isn’t it. Thinking about what you said, I may not be afraid of failing but of winning. You all add so much to my life. Thank you for sharing your lives. I know there is no excuses left and now I won’t be afraid to change, you have give me the courage to do it.

  15. Toni Myers says:

    hi Renee,
    Change, Dreams, Light shining, these subjects are very interesting. I ‘did’ notice the photo of U on pg. 60, ‘Farm Fair Organizer’ !!! Nice photo…
    I enjoy Bruce Wilkinsons’ bks. I’ll have to find a copy of Dream Giver. Beyond Jabez sounds like another book I want to read. But we have to remember to read the ‘greatest BOOK’ ever written & Inspired by GOD, His Holy Word !!!
    THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE is another excellent bk. by Pastor Rick Warren !!! He gets us ‘thinking’ about ‘WHAT’ is really impt. in life !! It is ‘doing’ & BEING what GOD has planned 4 each of us. We are ‘here on earth’ to bring GLORY to GOD, & NOT OURSELVES !! PSALM 139 –So, it’s NOT so impt. what we accomplish here on earth, that gives our life meaning, when it is ‘done’ for ourselves’ BUT WHEN IT IS DONE 4 others, to bring ‘honor & glory’ to GOD, is what will ‘count’, when we leave earth to meet ‘our MAKER’.
    I had many times a desire to ‘write a bk.’ also. But in my life, GOD changed that desire,(for now) ……to write in personal journals for each of our kids & grandkids, to leave a ‘LEGACY’ for them. Our families are the people that REALLY MATTER. Like one of the other ladies wrote, I still have lots of IDEAS, but not the ‘stamina’ to accomplish all those anymore. SO, I AM TRYING DAILY to SIMPLIFY my life, which is NOT an easy task. I am by ‘nature’ a DETAIL person, and have a lot of life interests.
    May GOD help U to lose some weight, Renee, I also NEED GOD’S HELP 4 that. Motivation gets harder as we get older, for most of us.
    Thanks for ‘blogging’ Renee, you are interesting, open & honest, and a caring person !!! ;o)
    Toni

  16. Mary Ann Witcher says:

    AMEN Sister!!!

  17. carol branum says:

    hi well here is my advice,for what it is worth,I havent watched tv now for 4 months,at all,I have been too obsessed with my new dreams and goals,that,seems to be helping,I also,have just dropped some,well,not really dropped,but,given up some time with old friends,I just don,t care to go out to the bars with them anymore,I will miss country danceing,but now I do that at squaredanceing,witch is non-alcoloic,and I get to bed before 10,if I went out to a bar with my old friends,I,d get in at 3 in the morning,so,that,is a time waster,just simple changes that I have made has helped me with my goals.think about that,I don,t miss tv at all,believe it or not,I thought I would go into panic,but its been a refreshing change for a while.blessed be,carol branum,themofarmersdaughter@blogspot.com

  18. Tamara from N.Syracuse, NY says:

    Your three changes are the same as mine! And I have thought and re-thought the same things! We will get there. I just know it. It may be two steps forward and one step back, but I’m confident we will ALL get there.

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

A Blogging Smorgasbord

[Previous Rural Farmgirl, April 2009 – May 2010]

I was born to be a gypsy, a vagabond, a wanderer. There is something about the road. It just seems to call out to me. It is not the destination that calls, but the journey itself. It is the back roads, the people I will meet, the things that I will see…the experience. So when a fellow blogger, a girl named Timi, invited me to drive over to the west side of our fair state to participate in a “meet the blogger” night in Snohomish, of course I said yes. In true Rene’ fashion, I set out without a clue of what to expect. I love the thrill of the unexpected! I knew none of the women who would be there, yet I was confident, based on Timi’s “zany” personality, that I would somehow fit in.

  1. Timi says:

    Aaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh It was so fun to have you come over and join us. We had so much fun that weekend. A blog party is definatley a fantastic idea. It has beeen so much fun meeting the ladies that we all read about, chat about, and leave comments for.
    We must do it again. We need to get you and your friends on one of the Junk Junkets so you can spend the day junkin with us or…………we bring a Junk Junket to you!
    Timi
    http://www.comejunkwithus.com
    http://www.agirlnametimi.com

  2. Annie says:

    Wow Rene’..I am not worthy!!! Both Snohomish and myself thank you for the kind words. It was a treat to meet you and we are so glad that you enjoyed your visit to the west side…My offer is still good for your next visit. Camano Island would be a great place for you to relax and write your articles.. Again, many thanks…
    Annie

  3. Reba says:

    I love, love, love to find towns like that. Sometimes when we are traveling on vacation, we will go through a downtown area like this and stop. It is as you say, like having dessert. It is an unexpected surprise that usually winds up making the vacation complete. The destination is not the reason for the vacation, the beauty and personality of each unique place we visit is the vacation.

  4. Angela says:

    Rene ~

    You could have just driven to Snohomish, loaded your winnings and waved goodbye…but, instead you wrote a wonderful piece about the experience, the friendships and the amazing people you met. It is thoughtful of you to recognize so many of the women who worked so hard to put on the party!
    Timi is very special to many people. She is just way too much fun, has a head full of great ideas and the ability to pull them off! That is talent…or, too much Diet Coke :)!
    Enjoyed your blog!
    Cheers, Angela

  5. Gary says:

    Your description of your trip is Brilliant Rene’…
    Your writing brings to Life the places and people you write about in a poignant way, which is engaging on a level of common experience, and which photographs cannot do.
    I have made similar "trips"… little journeys of discovery… meeting and seeing the most inspiring people things and places. As I was getting caught up in the activity of the moment in those places, I experienced the quality of "presence"… being fully engaged in whatever was at hand, with no other thoughts. Some people refer to this as being "focused"… I just call it being "present", and it is a quality which Animals possess all the time… immersed in the moment.
    I have had similar experiences in the classroom of a Brilliant Teacher, but the most memorable ones have been on "trips", and all of them have one thing in common… education/learning is taking place, and it is Exciting.
    Thank You for another thought provoking Bloggie, and…
    I have a question:
    What is "The Palouse" to you…? Now I am well aware that it is a place, but somehow I have the feeling it is much more than that ‘eh…
    GodSpeed to Y’all…!
    Gary
    in Tampa

    Oh Gary~ So perceptive. If I could ANY where in the world to live, it would be the Palouse. We lived there for 10 years and many of the friends that were my life line are there. I guess I would say, "I came into my own there." It was on the country roads as a young married women, a young mom, that I "worked out" who I was and who I wanted to be. I still cannot drive into Colfax and see the rolling hills and not weep. I will blog about it Gary…post pictures.. and spend more time explaining my special connection to the land and the people that helped to define me.

  6. Flower says:

    What a wonderful post..Snohomish has it all! Thanks for the details! It is so pleasant to read of your travels!
    Maybe you should carry a name tag in your purse..just in case! 🙂

    Great Idea~ I will do that.. then I am prepared for anything…

  7. Amy from CdA says:

    What a great trip. We used to live on the Sammamish Plateau and frequently took the back roads through Duvall and other great small towns. Thanks for taking me back if only in my mind. It’s been a while since we’ve been there so I’m sure much has changed. Can’t wait to get back and try The Grange. It sounds wonderful.

  8. Hobbit says:

    It sounds like a great time was had by all.I’m about to visit a friend in South Carolina that I haven’t seen in 7 years.After reading your piece I think we too will fall right back into our comfort zone.As always your blog hit the spot.

  9. Grace~katmom says:

    oh wowzers! sounds like I need to gather up the girls and make another field trip to go to these wonderful communities…wahooo!
    see ya soon.
    hugz

  10. Diana says:

    Rene’,
    This makes my heart so happy! I live in Duvall and my mother was born there. Despite all the growth and the farms diminishing, it is still so charming and quaint. Thank you for your beautiful words.
    Diana

  11. Colleen says:

    oh I love that little town! it has always felt like my ‘hometown’ when I visit … for your next trip, please try the best pie in the world at the Cabbage Patch! Now I’m going to put the Grange on my list!
    And I love your cart! I have one for my two mile walk to the grocery store and next time I’m at the fabric store, I’m going to make it a liner – what a great idea.

    thanks for taking us on your adventure!

  12. Shell says:

    Rene,

    It was so nice to meet you and what a fun night! As Annie said, I’m not worthy! But I’d make you a badge or a "blingie thing" anytime!

    You can always stay at my place too, I’m right up the hill. IF you don’t mind a furry friend or two!

    Shell

    WOW.. Beautiful, talented, friendly AND MODEST… it just gets better and better…. 🙂

  13. Holly says:

    Hi Rene!
    So glad to hear of your visit to Snohomish…I love it there too! Joyworks and the Speckled Hen are my 2 favorite stores! Wish I would have known about the blog party, it would have been fun to see you again! Next time, head on up to Lynden too and we’ll give you the royal treatment, Farmgirl style!!
    I actually put the bumper sticker you gave me on my car and now my son says he can’t drive it anymore!!!! Yea!!! thanks!

    xoxo Holly

    Holly~  Hahahahah….You’ll have to tell your boys what I tell mine~ "real men dont mind the farmgirl stickers"… LOL…. I would LOVE to come up to Lynden..sounds fun….

  14. Raynita says:

    Rene’, The statement below that you made is just awesome! I so wish all women could get that and live it. What glorious possibilities there would be in their lives! My goal is to always try to pass this type of wisdom along the road I travel. Thanks for sharing. Love this blog:)

    "My experience with the women I met that weekend was the perfect example of the idea that by building community, all of our lives are richer. I love spending time with others who simply understand that my living my dream does not empty the “cookie jar of dreams.” I believe that there is not a quota, that once met, takes away from another reaching her dreams. Rather, a synergy created when we celebrate the success of one another, and we each live our best life." Geesh! That is big:)

  15. CherylK says:

    I’m a devoted fan of Mary Jane’s Farm and I just finished reading every word of this post and every comment and I am so impressed. I’m in Minnesota but I have two sisters in Washington state. One in Mount Vernon and one in Port Angeles. We love visiting your beautiful state. The very next time I’m there I will head to Snohomish and visit the charming places you’ve talked about.

    Cheryl,

    I promise you will love it. Let me know when you’re headed there maybe I can join you for a day of farmgirl shopping.

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

An Ode to Community

[Previous Rural Farmgirl, April 2009 – May 2010]
While meeting with a group of women from my church recently, I learned that one of the Farmgirls in our community needed some help. Emily had recently undergone surgery to provide a kidney to her ailing little girl, and she needed to have a chicken coop built and some garden work done before the winter hit. That did not sound like a huge request to me. After all, I thought, surely there are enough of us in our little farming community who could spare some supplies, tools and a few man/woman hours. I decided then- and- there that this was something that we could, and should, do.

Continue reading

  1. Cheri says:

    We are preparing for our own county fair. If I was anywhere close, I would bring some friends and help.

    I am certain that you are correct and will just MAKE A DIFFERENCE for your friend.

    Good luck, please post pictures of your event this weekend.
    While I am submitting, photos, pumpkins, and Hay for our fair. Moving in 3 horses and nutrition and gardening projects for my own kids. I will remind our little town about your efforts.

  2. Becky says:

    Wow Rene,

    That was a great post. I would give anything to be a part of a community like you are talking about. I live in a semi-rural area and there is no community whatsoever. It would be amazing to be a part of a community where there are others willing to "watch your back" and help out when needed. My husband was laid off in June and we are by no means destitute but it would be nice for someone to ask how we are doing and if we need anything. It seems like our friends (supposed friends) just can’t handle something like this and instead of talking about it they just ignore it and act like it isn’t even there.

    Oh well, enough about my problems. I am happy for you that you are able to be a part of something so great. And that friend who needs the chicken coop she is blessed to have a group of friends so supportive.

    Becky

  3. What I know to be true is a women’s heart and spirit gives to those in need no matter how big or how small. To sit with sick chick’s, give a gentle pull to slipper hooves stuck on their way out to a new world or holding the hand of a dear friend as they slip out of this world. I offer my hands, heart, tears and soul to any in need – two or four legged. Being of service is what we do and for that we are all farmgirls!

  4. Dalyn says:

    wonderful post Renee. Really good!

  5. Leah Adams says:

    I must say, I do envy you. From your Farmgirl community, to your county fair, it all sounds so delicious. I live in Roswell Georgia, a suburb of Atlanta, and there is definitely "nothing" farmgirlish here. I love the country, I can sometimes smell it in my mind as I long to be somewhere like you are. But, the hubby’s job is here and I am in school full time to finish my masters and teach. I also love to write, so I am working on that as well. We have seven children, a great Dane named Tux, and a chihuahua named Sydney, both of whom would love the country. We don’t even have a back yard for the children to play in. Sad, isn’t it!

    My grandmother used to make quilts and I read your article on quilting. It was fabulous,and made me miss the country even more. I think it is wonderful to have a community like you do. Sometimes when we are in the midst of something, we don’t see what it means to us, or how much we have to be thankful for. Love your farm, you are very lucky to live in a place like that. I wish I could have a little piece of you here.

    Good luck with the project and I hope all turns out well.

    Leah

  6. Tammie says:

    Rene,

    What an inspiration!!!!
    I am a farmgirl wanabe. I grew up in the city, and the closest thing for me to farm roots go back several generations. I wonder if your community has always been this close knit or if someone (yourself perhaps) gave it a boost. I agree with the other posts here, I would love to be a part of such a close community. What can I do to get a chapter like yours going where I live? (I don’t want you to ask, where do I live? I would like to know what steps it takes to find the people around all of us with similar interests and generosity of spirit. Willing to give of ones own time even if the money isn’t there.)

    I love your post. I have a home day care so during naptime I read. My MaryJanes Farm magazine has been through several readings by the time the next issue comes out so reading your post is an added treat.
    I enjoy reading through the comments your readers leave as well. This post is a virtual community for me.

    Blessings to all
    Tammie

    While I would love to take credit for the way our community and our farmgirls are, I cannot. I do, however, believe that it is the accumulation of time, and the giving spirit. I think our "old timers" set the pace, and then brought the rest of us to believe that it just is the way it is all done. Maybe every community needs a hero. Someone to get it all started. Our community is blessed to have several.

  7. Gary says:

    God Bless Y’all Rene’…!
    The Character of the people in a Community define the Character of the Community and make it a place ya’ can call Home and really feel Good about it. Often, the "little things" make the difference between a Life of Quality and a existence, for after all, Life is a serial collection of those "little things" ‘eh.
    Here our Humane Society and SPCA partnered with Meals on Wheels, and meal recipients who have Pets now also get a meal delivered each day for their Pet. That seems like a small thing, but it is a huge thing to those elderly and disabled people who Love their Critters.
    I am certain that the efforts of all y’all will make a huge difference to your Friend and Neighbor too.
    GodSpeed to Y’all…!
    Gary
    in Tampa

  8. Mandie says:

    What great inspiration! I love that you ladies are helping such a great lady. She will never forget the generosity and she so deserves it. God bless

  9. Karen says:

    What a great post I think each of us can look around and find someone in need. I am in the process of saving up some hats, scarves, and gloves to send to a guy who has a program for the homeless in Atlanta who live under the bridges. I may even see about gathering some blankets too. I feel like no matter how small your step maybe to help someone it can go along way, in this day and time. Thanks for such a great post. Blessings, Karen

  10. ladylocust says:

    You are so fortunate. I live in the mountains about 2-2 1/2 hours south of Prosser. We have a wonderful mt. community. Last year an elderly neighbor passed away leaving his widow behind. Come fall we all chipped in and went and cut, split and stacked two-three cords of wood within just a few hours. It was so rewarding to see her smile, and it was so little time on our part. There are so many things that don’t require money that make such a difference in our lives. Kudos and good luck with the coop.

  11. Christina says:

    Wow… That’s amazing. It is awesome that there are people out there who are more than willing to help others in their time of need. I would love to meet people who have this farmgirl spirit in my area, but honestly don’t know how to go about doing it or even where to look.
    I think our world would be a much better place if we could go back to the old fashioned values of living and be just as neighborly as we can to everyone we meet.
    Thanks for sharing this story. I hope our friend Emily and her little girl are both recovering nicely.

  12. How did the chicken house building project go? I bet she was overcome with emotion…in the best sort of way. I hope her little girl is on her way to much better days ahead. What a grand thing all of you did. shery jespersen

    Thanks.. we had the best time. We still have some work to do….and I will post pictures when it is all done. Thank you for the well wishes for Emily and Laynee they are really great people.

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Happy Trails to You

[Previous Rural Farmgirl, April 2009 – May 2010]
I have been hearing Roy Rogers sing that snappy little tune for days now. If I knew how to whistle, I would be whistling it while I work. I have always been a Roy Rogers and Dale Evans fan, though I probably could not come up with any brilliant reasons why. Maybe it was their unassuming way of being humble in the midst of their success, or their fun and flirty style when talking to each other while on camera. I could never image one without the other.

Continue reading

  1. Miriam says:

    Congratulations on the purchase of your new adventure home! I miss having our Winnabago. It was always packed and ready to hit the trail at a moments notice. I can’t wait to hear about your explorations.

  2. karen bates (kpaints) says:

    Oh, Rene’ how wonderful! Yeah! She is a cutie! What brand? Once I get Trailer Trash (temp name) fixed this spring we all need to hit the winding roads of Washington. I love the name you chose, maybe you could help me with one. Happy trails to you!!! Until we meet again!

  3. Gary says:

    Cool trailer Rene’…!
    I’m certain you will Cozy-It-Up inside, and Y’all will have many Swell times in the Great Outdoors.
    GodSpeed to Y’all…!
    Gary
    in Tampa

  4. Grace~katmom says:

    Oh Rene’
    I am soooo excited for you to go on your 1st-maiden voyage……and then when the 5 of us meet up for one last round up of the season….Is it October yet? LOL!
    I luv the Roy & Dale theme….

    Yep, when Karen get’s T.T. done & road ready, the 6 of us Trailer Princess’ will hit then road..’cuz like you said, every road has a story & we have cameras to prove it!
    hug & Happy Trails to you, until we meet again….
    >^..^<

  5. Brenda says:

    Oh my yeah for you!!! I would be so excited I do not think I could wait past the next weekend. We had an old vintage pop-up camper when our girls were younger. Afraid it was not in the best of shape when I bought it and no matter how much repair we did it would only hold up for about 4 or 5 more years. But we had great time in that camper. I have been eyeing all the vintage campers in the MaryJanes magazines when I get them and on some other blog sites. I also enjoyed making curtains and cushions for our camper as I am sure you are doing. Loved Roy and Dale when I was growing up also, what an awesome idea for your decor. Have fun!

  6. CC says:

    I grew up with Dale & Roy singing on red and yellow colored 78’s or 45 records that my parents gave us … I remember watching them in black & white on Saturday mornings along with the cartoons … I remember our family going to Apple Valley, CA on a vacation & going to see their museum where my sister broke into inconsolable tears at seeing Trigger stuffed in the museum – – that was it for her, she never watched Roy again …

    Congrats on the trailer & your new happy trails ahead!

  7. Grace says:

    Having been richly blessed with meeting both Dale and Roy as a young woman I can attest to the fact they were real honest hard working hard playing folks. I enjoyed many days swimming in their pool and laughing with them and learning from them with their true gift in sharing stories. I even played with the dog,"Bullet" I loved that the dog could undo invisible ropes that tied my hands. What a gift their presence was to me in my life from that point on. I loved that they adored one another and made such a lovely couple. I appreciated their ability to give to those less fortunate than they themselves were. You can take the people out of the country but the country (farm girl) is always right there within.

    Grace,

    Thank you for sharing that with me. How special to know that there is a connection.

  8. Marilyn Freerksen says:

    I was in love with Roy Rogers. I even got his comic book, took it to school and hid it in one of my textbooks and wouldn’t you know I got caught. And I was the "perfect student" who ever did anything wrong! I too would love to have one of the small trailers for camping, Good for you!

  9. Susan says:

    I to have acquired a little trailer. Wasn’t road worthy but it’s in our backyard ready for a night’s camping. As Dorthy said, you don’t have to look further than your own backyard for adventure!

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *