Grief… It’s Hard

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Hello farmgirl friends!

This is a hard post for me to write, but somehow I think it will be a post that we can all relate to… and encourage each other in.


Ten days ago, I lost a very dear friend of mine to a tragic car accident.  Death is something that we are never prepared for; but when it comes so suddenly in a sobbing phone call from her daughter, Sarah, then it is almost impossible to grasp.  Today I’d like to tell you about my friend Patti.


Patti had a BIG HEART  

There was absolutely NO ONE she did not love.  And I mean that with every fiber of my being.  It did not matter what your status in life was, or who you were.  She loved you.  She never judged anyone by the situation they were in or decisions they had made (good or bad); she just loved you.


Patti knew the POWER OF LOVE

Her father died when she was six and her mother wasn’t very present in her life.  Patti told us once that she never heard the words “I love you” until she was an adult.  I think that might be why she loved so deeply.  She knew firsthand the power of love.


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Patti loved ADVENTURE

She was an incredibly adventurous lady!  We called her an “old hippie” (she really was!!) and she was absolutely game for anything, even spur of the moment.  And I loved that about her.  If there was a friend in need, she would jump in her car and drive to them.  It didn’t matter if it was hundreds of miles away.  If you called and wanted to go kayaking, she was immediately game!  It didn’t matter the adventure; she was all in for it!


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She had friends all over the world.   And I mean that with all seriousness.  She impacted lives far and wide.  When you were Patti’s friend you were guaranteed a friend for life.



She truly knew the struggles of the heart of all mankind and there was no one she didn’t remember in prayer.  She cherished the time she spent praying.


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She never went anywhere without her sweet dog. (He survived the car accident and after some trauma, he is now doing well with Patti’s husband Keith!)  Her daughter and son in law have goats and sheep and Patti loved the babies; she would stay up all night caring for a little lamb or kid in need.  I had a text from her daughter yesterday and she was telling me about a Ewe sheep that is sick right now and she said, “What’s hard is that if Mom was alive she would be here sleeping in the barn and never letting this Ewe out of her sight”.  And Patti would’ve; that was how she was.


Patti was FUNNY

I was one of the lucky ones that lived 20 minutes from her.  So I saw her twice a week on average.  Her joyous laughter was a constant in my life.  We could laugh until our sides hurt.  It’s not often that you find someone that you can laugh with to that degree!  She could laugh at herself like not one I’ve ever known before!  The stories we all share of her funny experiences are ones that I cherish so much.


Patti was an ENCOURAGER

It didn’t matter if everything was falling apart, she had the right words to encourage.  My daughter told me that she plans to write down all the texts that Patti sent her… they were always encouraging, always loving, always cheerful.



Patti was a CHILD AT HEART

She didn’t have grand-children yet and she loved mine as if they were hers too.  Often when she was driving by my daughters house on the way to see her daughter, she would stop and see the girls.  It was not uncommon for her to jump in the pool with them in all her clothes! They considered her their best friend; and she was.


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I miss her.  Every day in the 10 days that she has been gone, I’ve picked up my phone to call her to tell her something funny or to see what she’s doing.  And then I remember she is gone.  And I want to call her and tell her how desperately I miss her.  And that I don’t think I’ll ever be the same without her.  But then I hear her saying to me; “Dori, you will be fine.  Trust me.”  And I do.


Thank you friends, for always listening to the thoughts in my heart!


Until our gravel roads cross again… so long.


Leave a comment 106 Comments

  1. Dear Dori I’m so very sorry for the loss of your friend! What a beautiful person she sounds like! It inspires greater things in us, doesn’t it! It’s so hard.. I know quite well! Such precious memories.
    Big hugs your way!❤️

  2. Sabrena Orr says:

    I am so sorry for the loss of Patti. What a lovely soul she was. The saying is true that tomorrow is not promised; it sounds like Patti lived each day to the fullest. I’m so sorry.

  3. Ramona Puckett says:

    Oh my goodness!! I’m so sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing your friend with us, Patti is an inspiration for all of us to be a better person, friend and momma. Surrounding all of y’all with love and peace.

  4. Diann says:

    Ya know what is truly remarkable? The legacy of love she instilled in all of you. The example of her life lives on in all that she touched. That, I believe, is what living a life to the fullest is all about. How blessed you have been and will be because of her. “It will be fine.”

  5. Jeanne Ballestero says:

    So sorry for your loss. Cherish all these beautiful memories

  6. Kathleen Skilling says:

    Dear Dori,
    Thank you for sharing the gift of your friend Patti❤️ What a beautiful person she was, who continues to touch lives by your sharing of hers.
    Wishing you comfort and eventually peace in your memories of Patti.

  7. Kim Rice says:

    I’m so very sorry for your families loss of Patti. And all her family and friends far and wide. Sudden tragedy is the hardest I believe. No time to prepare, no last words. Patti’s spirit and friendship will be treasured for many many years to come. Her life is one to be celebrated!! Hugs to all,

  8. Rhonda Cavaliere says:

    So sorry for your loss. Patti sounds like an incredible person. She sounds like a great friend.

  9. Mary Frances Rauch says:

    Thank you Dori for sharing your very personal story of this blessed friendship. This is one of those “forever gifts” that all of us are not fortunate enough to experience.
    I plan to keep this post so I can go back and read it later (and maybe forever). I plan to think of Patti as “A great friend I never met.”
    So generous of you to send this.

  10. Lori Fresina says:

    Thank you for telling us about Patti!!

  11. Marlene says:

    You’re blessed to have had her in your life for as long as you did. May she be at peace.

  12. Judy says:

    Oh Dori,
    I’m saddened to hear this kind of news.
    Hang on tight to all those wonderful
    memories, the laughter and the fun.
    She would like that as a Tribute to her,
    I think. I read a quote awhile back
    that’s fitting for this moment.
    ‘God gave us memories that we might
    have roses in December!’
    True isn’t it?
    You’re in my heart and my Prayers

  13. Cyndie Gray says:

    Keeping you close in heart as you navigate a loss such as this one ♥️

  14. Tammy L Thomson says:

    The bigger the blessing someone is, the harder it is to loose them. What a wonderful , gracious and giving soul was your dear friend Patti. I am so sorry…..

  15. Sharon says:

    Will pray for you as you grieve this loss; it is evident that her absence leaves a huge hole in your life.

  16. Carol says:

    Dori … I am so sorry for your loss of such a cherished friend. Just remember how lucky you are to have a friend like Patti. She’s gonna leave a hole in your heart but what a great example she was to all who knew her. God Bless you as you learn to move forward with Patti in your life. I’m sure there will be many, many times in the future that you will giggle over something wonderful the two of you shared. Hugs, Carol

  17. Marie says:

    I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing Patti with us. It’s a beautiful tribute to your dear friend.


  18. Gael Orr says:

    Thank you for sharing the beauty of your dear friend and for your vulnerability. C.S. Lewis said, “We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” I hope his words offer you comfort, as they have always comforted me. I wish you the very best in your journey.

    Gael Orr
    Once Again Nut Butter

  19. Dianna says:

    Deepest love and prayers of comfort for you and her family and friends! Grief isn’t for the faint of heart for sure. Its deep, cutting and can even be debilitating. She sounds like an angel on earth. Her memories will live in the lives shes touched forever There! There IS consultation knowing you will see her again. Promises from the Father. Hugs and love from Al.

  20. Mary L Stayner says:

    Dear Dori,
    I am so sad for you! I, too, have lost a dear friend that has left a huge hole in my heart. My mother ~ although she has been gone now for over 16 years, I still want to call her every night as I did for years. No one has her old land line number, so sometimes I call and talk to her phone. I know it sounds sort of silly…but find a way…I also talk to her through my prayers and occasionally, I talk out loud to her as I am walking, etc. We want to hold on to our loved ones. But, we also know that one day we will see them again.
    May our Lord hold you in the palm of His hands and wrap you in His loving arms of comfort. Take care and God bless you!
    Love and hugs,

  21. Dori, you’ve given me hope with some of my friends. And Patti is a true inspiration to me and should be to many. To have a friend like that has to have been remarkable. I have a friend, who for what ever reason cut me off a couple years ago and hurt me terribly. There’s hardly a day that goes by that I sit and wonder why. Cherish all those fabulous memories. A friend like that is one in a million. We need to all take a page of learn From her beautiful life. I pray for strength for you, her family and the most fondest of memories to get through it all. ❤️

  22. Charles Delcambre says:

    Dori, I’m with you. Beautiful post. I want to be Patti to the world. Lord help me, and ease Dori’s grief with your comfort!

  23. Rebecca Henry says:

    Patti sounds like an amazing person, and this is a beautiful tribute to her. I’m so sorry you lost your friend. ❤️

  24. Monica Smith says:

    Grief is love with no where to go. You gave your grief a place to land…in memories and photos and in the lives of people you will never know….like me. Everybody needs a Patty. May her soul fill your heart until you meet again.

  25. Mrs.O says:

    So sorry for your loss. Your friend seemed a genuine, loving person.. Where is her husband?

    • Dori Troutman says:

      Thank you! Patti’s husband is here… alone in their sweet barn house on the lake. But their daughter and her husband live close and they are spending all the necessary time with him! He is well-loved!!!

  26. Deanna Taylor says:

    Dori, what a loss a good friend can be. She was a beautiful person and was such a huge part of your life so losing her is very painful. Just remember, she will always be a part of your life..that will never change. I lost my best friend of 52 years almost 12 years ago and I still long for her. Then I think “What would my life had been like without her” and I am thankful. God Bless as you go through this dark valley.

  27. Darlene Ricotta says:

    My prayers go with you and Patti’s family! She was a real treasure!

  28. Patti sounds like my grandson, Todd, who was killed in an automobile accident 1 1/2 yrars ago. He was 27. My sister, Lisa, died the same way at the age of 27 in 1982. Patti also sounds as if she, like Todd and Lisa, like them, had the fruits of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22-23). They were dearly loved by all who knew them and they loved in return. For me, the grief is so hard to bear and it’s never ending. My heart hurt so much I didn’t want it to beat again and overwhelming saddness is always just a breath away. But comfort lies in knowing who they were and how happy I’ll be when I see them again. And I know ”
    the Rose Still Grows Beyond the Wall”.

  29. Michelle Reid says:

    ~Sending much love and prayers~What a Beautiful tribute you have written~thank you for sharing Patti with us~

  30. Susanne says:

    Beautiful Tribute to your friend! So Sorry.

  31. LINDA B. LOVE says:

    I’m very sorry for your loss of a dear friend. I experienced this loss August 10th when my friend Margaret passed away suddenly. She was always ready to have fun together and do things for me unselfishly like bringing me various items from Trader Joe’s because there was none close to me. We traveled together to quilt shops looking for that special piece of fabric, to quilt shows, and to the beach in Galveston to spend a week making quilts for veterans to eventually present them. She was always ready to help and be a dear friend. I’ll always miss her. I know I’ll see her again because she loved our lord Jesus and was faithful to him.

  32. Valerie Sijan says:

    Dear Dori,
    I too have known this pain recently and empathize what you are going through!
    I lost my best friend, ex partner, and touchstone a few months ago after he endured throat cancer for many months. Death seemed to be merciful in that case, but the pain of his loss was no less.
    I imagine losing someone so quickly the way you did is even more traumatic.
    One thing we can be sure of though, is that love never dies! We will all be together again somewhere in Time.
    Energy cannot be destroyed, only transformed.
    Our loved ones live on in a frequency beyond our sensory range in the human body.
    You have wonderful memories of a splendid friendship!
    Blessings to you, and may the shock and pain you are feeling now pass quickly.
    Sending you Love and Light,✨✨✨✨✨✨

  33. So sad. Sorry to hear. We need the good ones!

  34. Tina says:

    I lost my dear friend, Cindi, 6 years ago, to cancer. I’ve never laughed with anyone else like we did, all the time. This morning I poured my coffee into my fancy mug I bought to remember her- she loved classy and pretty coffee cups. I sat down to read your email and your story about Patti made me immediately think about Cindi.
    I understand your loss is deep and you’ll always miss her, but what a treasure to have had her in all your lives!!

  35. Treese says:

    Dori know that Patti may have left this earthly plane but she will never leave you. I lost my best friend 3 years ago on my birthday. I was running a race across Mackinac Island. I placed better that day than I ever have in a race. After the race my friend called to tell me Chip had passed away (she wouldn’t tell me before the race). I realized Chip’s spirit was running the race with me. Pushing me along and encouraging me. I know he is with me everyday and I will see him again on the other side.
    I pray that your heart will heal and you will be left with happy and joyous thoughts of Patti.

  36. Marla Hanna says:

    Sending you light and love during this difficult time. I do relate and appreciate your post. It reminds me that we are not alone in the sad times too. Peace and comfort.

  37. Linda says:

    I’m so sorry!! I know I fill your pain, lost my best friend of 40 yrs!! It took me a yr. To recover!! Many hugs!!

  38. jonibee says:

    She has left her mark on a lot of hearts..Please accept my sincere sympathy. Reach out and touch somebody…

  39. Jeanie says:

    I am so sorry that your precious friend is gone. This is a beautiful and thought provoking tribute to her life. You have been truly blessed to have had her in your life, and I’m sure your life is much better because of her influence. ❤️

  40. Magdalena Tabor says:

    First I want to express my very deepest condolences to you and to Patti’s family and friends. She sounds like she was an exceptional person with a pure spirit. I thank you for sharing in your grief.
    I lost my best friend several years ago. We were friends since age 12. I think of her almost every day. Even though we lived miles apart later in life, she was as close to me as ever. I know I will see her one day again. Much love to you. ❤️

  41. Beth Gowdy says:

    What a gem of a person! I feel for her husband and family and friends to have lost such a joy in your lives. How lucky you were to have had her in your life. I just lost a friend, Terry, and it was shocking and sad. He was the one who got us all together and made us laugh and sing and there was not another like him. Now he and your friend are in the arms of God who cares for them.

  42. Diane Parkhouse says:

    I am so very sorry . the sudden, unexpected loss of someone we love is the deepest pain a heart can feel … so final and there is nothing – nothing we can do to bring them back – almost more than the heart can bear. What a blessing to have shared your life with Dori.

  43. Victoria Barlow says:

    Dear Dori,

    My love and prayers goes out to you. I lost my best friend in a car accident 2 years ago. Although I have had to pick myself up and teach myself to carry on, her sweet memory still blesses me today. It maybe a long road for a little while, but remember there are those who care and share your feelings. The beautiful thing about sweet people like our friends is they bless in life or in death.

    Heaven bless you!

  44. Bonnie Ellis says:

    Dori, Such an incredible person most of us won’t see in a lifetime, yet you knew her. Loss is unmeasurable but the gift of knowing her will sustain you. God bless you.

  45. deb bulgrin says:

    I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Grief at any stage is hard, but when it is so suddenly i think that is the worst. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, and thank you for sharing the story of this remarkable lady. She sounds like someone we all would have been lucky to call friend. Hugs to you!

  46. Dear Dori,

    Many, many blessing shower you and Patti! God knows and hears her laughter and sees your tears.
    Thank you so much for opening your heart to all of us in your time of sadness.

    There are many rainbows that you and Patti are still able to share…..softly, lovingly, now and till you meet again! All my love Karen

  47. May the Unfathomable Divine Mercy of Jesus be upon Pattis soul, and those of her family and friends in their grief ! She is still praying for all of you ! Sympathy and peace…

  48. Oh my heart breaks for you and for me again as the memories come flooding back of losing my dear friend in a car wreck a few years ago. It will get better. You will eventually think of her with more joy at having known her and less pain at having lost her. But when they are angels in this life, it takes a while. Keep your chin up and God Bless. You’ll meet again on the other side.

  49. Colleen says:

    Dear Dori,
    I am saddened by your hurting heart. What a beautiful tribute you have written. Clearly, Patti was blessed to have you as her friend. I hope, over time, you will share more about how friends love each other well. I’m sure I could learn ways to be a better friend myself, from your recollections. Already, I’m inspired. Thank you.

    “The Lord is near to the broken-hearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Psalm34:18

  50. Jimi Paderick says:

    A beautiful testimonial for a beautiful soul! Thank you for sharing.

  51. So sorry for the loss of your dear friend. She sounds like a wonderful person and will be missed by a lot of people. God bless you.

  52. Mildred Squyres says:

    So sorry to hear of your friend’s death. I would have loved to have known her she sounds like a very good friend to have.

  53. Donna Rowe says:

    So very sorry. It sounds like a friend we all have and need to contact more often while we still have time. Oh how precious your memories are! Thank you for sharing her wonderful life!

  54. Regina says:

    So sorry for your loss..I got a lump in my throat and tears are begging to released..she sounds so much like a person who was “refined by fire and emerged as gold”. How I would have loved knowing her, and asked her “how to do life” questions! But then again…she would very likely only point me to the One who helped her deal with issues….

  55. Charlotte Briggs says:

    So sorry for your loss. I recently was also in an automobile accident and almost didn’t make it so this really hit home. I now have what is called TBI. I spent 2 1/2 months in rehabilitation hospital and am truly grateful for all their help. I will never be the same but god blessed me to still be here on this earth

  56. Dori I am so sorry. Be gentle and kind with yourself and others. Keep Patti close in your heart. Prayers and hugs

  57. Cori Zabrodsky says:

    Thank you for this beautiful message about a beautiful person who touched lives in such a beautiful way! Praise the Lord for the blessing of your dear friend.

  58. Renise Rosenboom says:

    So thankful that you shared your friend with me today.

  59. Dori, thank you for sharing….You were blessed to have such a friend in your life & she was blessed to have a friend such as you…..Great friendships are to be treasured. Be thankful for the beautiful memories you have….I know you will be smiling each time you remember all the good times you spent together….Again, thank you for sharing….francine from Boise Idaho

  60. Lauri says:

    I lost my big brother on New Years Eve 12/31/20 . He had ALS and decided early on to.let the disease take its course. He was a big man with a big presence in this world with 3 kids, a wife, 2 grandchildren and hundreds of friends around the world.
    He was the definition of a Big Brother..always my protector and always there to listen and guide me. I miss him every day; I still talk to him and I have his ashes in a tattoo on my arm. He told me he would always be with me …and he is. He told me that life goes on and I should enjoy every minute..and I do. Hugs and love to you and to everyone who has lost someone. They are with us always.

  61. Angie says:

    Thank you so much for sharing. I needed this

  62. Beverly Posey says:

    So sorry for your loss and pain. Losses like this reinforce what a gift time is and to give it freely to those you love. I do not want my loved ones to spend a dime ON me but I’ll take every moment they can spend WITH me. Praying for comfort for you. Remember those times spent with your friend and the joy it gave you.

  63. Sandra Knauf says:

    This tribute is so beautiful. May we all be so loved!
    Wishing all who loved Patti heart-felt condolences and love as they deal with this loss.

  64. Sharon Schneider says:

    Sorry for your loss – as you conveyed she was a dear friend, and will be missed. I truly believe you can find some peace in knowing that she is now with you daily, and everywhere you go, in spirit. Look for signs, and be comforted in that you will see her again someday.

  65. Patricia L Power says:

    I’ve lost too many very close and long-time friends and family in the past eighteen months, and my life is far lonelier now. It will never be the same, but you and I are here. And the people who loved us and whom we loved would want us to take in the colors of sunrise and breathe the crisp October morning’s air with relish….because they can’t. And through our memories, we will endure, and part of them will too. Be good. Be kind. And be thankful for what we’ve known in this lifetime.

  66. Pamela C says:

    So very sorry for your Loss. May she Rest In Peace.

  67. Tamara johnson says:

    I’m truly sorry for your loss, loss is very hard, I lost my husband 12 years ago, my dad last year and my puppy hero of 14 years 4 months ago! Just know that the pain never leaves but you do find comfort!! Gods grace is the most amazing <3

  68. Sandra Gold says:

    A beautiful loving tribute! You were so blessed to have a special friend who will live forever in your memory.

  69. Rebecca Cook says:

    You wrote an absolutely beautiful tribute to your friend. So sorry for your loss.

  70. Karen Holderman says:

    I am so sorry you have lost such a wonderful friend. What a blessing to have had such a friend. She will be in you heart forever. You. her family and other friends are in my prayers.

  71. Lisa says:

    Your so kind to share the preciousness of your dear friend, Patti. She exemplified what I have tried to convey to others: your past influences but does not determine your behavior. She rose above the sadness and was a bright light for one and all. None of know when our words could be our last words so we must be certain to let them be kind.
    Thank you again for sharing, you and those who are grieving will be covered in prayer.

  72. Patti says:

    I’m so very sorry …

  73. Jensy Gregory says:

    Dearest Dori, Thank you for your courage in sharing a very hard message that all of us will relate to if we have not already lived through this valley of grief. Patti sounds so amazing and your friendship was a bond of love much like sisters. I pray that you will be comforted by the peace of God that surpasses all problems and fears and loss in our lives that we experience.
    I’m sure Patti is saying to you now, “Dori, I’m just a whisper of prayer away.” In Him, Jensy

  74. OH! MY! THE BEST WOMAN that was such a DEAR FRIEND!!! The sharing was the BEST and the pictures too!!! Having a friend like that is hard to find!!! They can make life so much sweeter and the LOSS of your Dear Friend touched my HEART! I can cry with you, CRYING can clean us up to move forward, and knowing how much THEY loved us!!! YOU know death is not the end………She is always with you and cheering you on! YOU will see her again! God Bless you and I see all the love from others that FEEL your loss!!! LOVE IS FOREVER!!! Love, Laurie P. ;-))) (Norco, Calif.)

  75. Leslie Anne says:

    Dear Dori, Your friend Patti sounds like a very life supporting and beautiful
    person even in her later times. She really does glow in her pictures. I send
    you a lot of emotional support. My mother was a terrific mother and rescued me
    many times. She passed away about 2014. Later there was the trauma of clearing
    her house which had to be up for sale. It sold and her paperwork from her files and clothes and furniture have been in storage.
    The first year of missing someone is the hardest and not predictable. I decided that I should do something
    that she would be most happy about. So I have and feel less pressure about her.
    I hope this is hopeful. best wishes for you and yours.

  76. Joyce Lyster says:

    What a beautiful tribute to your precious friend. Hugs and love to you.

  77. Shirley says:

    Sweet Dori praying for you as you grieve the lose of your dearest friend!

  78. Chris Alred says:

    I am so very, very sorry about the loss of your dear friend. May you and her family find comfort in knowing that she is with our Lord and Savior. I heard a quote the other day on tv from Richard Petty who had lost his son, “Never put a question mark where God has put a period.” The quote was sent to him from someone he never met and it helped him and it helped me. We lost our sweet 35 year old daughter in love in 2018 in a car accident and I had so many times said why……she was a wonderful Christian girl also. Hugs to you all~

  79. It makes me sad I didn’t get to know her! That was a beautiful tribute. So sorry for your loss! I lost a dear friend recently, also, so my heart goes out to you, and her family and friends.
    What a beautiful person she was and what a lovely life she lived.
    Prayers for comfort.

  80. Jennie Bishop-Mueller says:

    I am so sorry for the sudden loss of your Friend. She sounds like a light to the world.
    She will definitely shine on. My dad passed away September 19th after being in the hospital since July 30th. I keep thinking of things I would tell him or see something we would have gone to as a family and my heart hurts, but it makes the memories so much more important. My heart goes out to you. Many hugs!


    I am so sorry for your tragic loss. Although I did not know Patti it is with tear filled eyes that I write this message. Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful friend with all of us. Through your tribute I feel as though I too have had the privilege of knowing this beautiful person that shared this earth with me. Patti’s legacy is leaving this world a kinder more beautiful place.

  82. Patricia Murphy says:

    I am so truly sorry for your loss – for her family losing such a treasure. Like so many folks you are going to hear from, I’ve lost my two best and oldest friends within the past few years and I miss them so much. We carry on because we know they would want us to but there is no way to lessen our feeling of sorrow and loss. Please know that prayers for everyone involved are flowing from here.

  83. Lisa Wilson says:

    So sorry Dori. What a wonderful friend you had in your life!
    I’ll pray for comfort for all of those she loved and who will greatly miss her.

  84. Marilyn says:

    So sorry for your loss. Patti sounds like such a special person. You are so blessed to have had her in your life. Hope you and your family can find comfort and peace in your cherished memories of Patti. Will keep you and yours in our prayers and thoughts. God Bless.
    Joan,Marion and Marilyn

  85. Colleen says:

    Prayers for you to find peace. It sounds like she had God’s Peace in her heart, and it overflowed on anybody in her presence. She sounds like a wonderful soul.

  86. Brenda says:

    Lifting you up in prayer . Thank you for sharing & letting us meet Patti too! Hang on to those precious memories.

  87. Amy Boubel Holmes says:

    I’m so very sorry to hear this sad news. I’ve lost people that special to me before so I have an idea of the pain you are in right now. Time does change things a bit, but you will always miss her. That’s how big of an impact she had on your life and your heart. Prayers to you and all that Loved her.


    What a beautiful way to share the stories of your friend. She will always be in your heart and memories, may the healing start with all the sharing. Warm wishes, Phyllis

  89. Lyn michiels says:

    So sorry for the loss you are experiencing. She sounds like a person I would have liked to have had in my life. What a gift she was. She should never be forgotten, and probably will never be. Blessings to you

  90. Rebecca Gossett says:

    My deepest sympathies for your loss of your close friend. I pray that you will find comfort by remembering all the sweet memories you have during the years you enjoyed with her.

  91. Carlynne A Wright says:

    Thank you for that wonderful remembrance of your friend. We all hope we have the same impact with our lives.
    You will see and feel her in the wind and the people she loved.
    thank you again for sharing.

  92. What a great tribute to a exceptional friend. Heaven is lucky to have her to share her love.

  93. Donna Presley says:

    Dear Dori- I heart hurts for you, her family and all the lives she touched. What an amazing woman, and such a dear friend to you. I’m grieving with you and praying for comfort.

  94. Vickie says:

    Thank you so much for sharing these thoughts….

  95. Katy Sheeran says:

    When the wind blows in directions unknown to us we feel at a loss. Patti was an exceptional person because that was who she chose in life to be. We are given one life to live and how we share it with others is a blessing to be shared. In body yes she is gone but in spirit she is and will always be in your heart. The stories you tell the times you remember Patti she is still here. In the times of great loss I find it a comfort to still talk and laugh with them. They are only a moment away from us. Find comfort in the love you had for her and Thank God that you were blessed with this special friend. My heart and prayers go to you and her family.

  96. Eve Hurt says:

    I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Thank you for sharing the beautiful memories you have of her. It’s really difficult to lose a loved one, especially so unexpectedly. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  97. Karen Gay Howard says:

    I can so identify with you – i lost my BFF on 9-11-2021 after only a week of awareness of how serious the illness was. Altho i live in Missouri and she in Georgia, the last 7 yrs i called her every night. we would talk for hours. then it got shorter. then only 2 minutes but always ending with us both saying “i love you”. I should have known…..Oh how i miss her wisdom, and acceptance of me altho completely opposite from her. I will never take for granted again the friendship of anyone, no matter how short the time i’ve known them. Thank you for sharing…..

  98. So sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was s wonderful fun friend.

  99. Maritza SCHWINDT (MITZI) says:

    Thank you for sharing your friend with all of us. I am so sorry for your loss and that of her family.
    May GODS Blessings continue to be yours as you continue to share them with us.

  100. I am so sorry for your sudden loss of such a wonderful human being! My thoughts go out to you and all of the family/ friends!
    Grief takes so many different shapes, colors and sizes in our journey in healing. Especially since your Patti was such an amazing friend to all! I am thankful that you posted this about grieving being hard.
    I personally experienced a fair amount of loss myself over several years. My Dad, in particular, was difficult loss as he was strong in mind and heart. He fought hard battles with cancer and never gave up! I was also the sobbing daughter on the phone after his passing. Though he has since passed (June, 2013), his spirit is still present with all those were gifted to know him in their life.
    I thoroughly enjoyed the piece you wrote about Patti and the person she was. What an amazing woman you were able to speak about!
    I just want to send my best wishes to you and your family during this difficult time.
    Bridget Schierburg

  101. Linda Freeland says:

    My prayers and sympathy go with you with the loss of a good friend. I truly understand the feelings of your heart with the emptiness this left you with. My friend passed away four years ago and the loss of that 27 year friendship is still with me, as were the tears in my eyes when I read your message. My thankfulness are the memories that her and I shared over those years and I am very thankful for them.

  102. Debbie Fischer says:

    I am truly sorry for the loss of your Beautiful Friend. My heart breaks for you and I pray that the pain will ease for you. Patti sounds like she was a wonderful lady and a Dear Friend, and you have many memories to cherish.
    Bit Hugs,

  103. Elizabeth says:

    I am so sorry, she sounds like a amazing lady, It’s so sad. thanks for sharing her stories,

  104. Marilyn Stroble says:

    What a lovely tribute to a best friend. In 1969 I was blessed to meet Katie who was 26 years older than me. Immediately we became best friends. The age difference was never there- we were the same in thought and heart! We did everything we could together for years- fished, garage sales, crocheted, traveled, followed the Dallas Cowboys and went to Super Bowls, you name it, we did it! Our husbands were best friends too.
    I lost her at her age of 98 a year ago and I miss her everyday.
    Everyone should have the blessing of having a friend like yours and mine.
    Wishing you a great day from me in South Texas .

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