Thanks Giving

“Dear God, Thank you for everything. Amen.”
That was the first prayer my daughter said from her heart. You know, the first one that she hadn’t learned from some one else.
When she said it, I got on to her. “Go on….you’re not done. You need to do better. Name the people and things you’re thankful for. Tell the good Lord your petitions. Give more details.” I thought she was being a lazy pray-er.
Now I realize how perfect her prayer really was. “Thank you for everything.” No begging, no whining, no complaining, no asking. Just a big, fat thank you. For all of it.
This Thanksgiving Day, what is your prayer?

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  1. Joan says:

    Yes, God, THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING and thank You for Rebekah’s wonderful way!! I wish you all a Happy Blessed Thanksgiving.

  2. Janice K. says:

    What a wonderful entry! Yes, my dear, love your family and hold them close…You never know how much time we have left..
    Love the farm house and your dinner plans! If you wonder who that strange woman is on the front porch, it just might be me…Too bad I live in Washington…
    Happy Thanksgiving!

  3. MaryFrantic' says:

    Well, you certainly made MY day. I was right with you in each phrase and each word. My special jolt was your reference to the aging uncles, and the wish to "freeze time".
    Your posts must take a great deal of time and thought. Believe me, they are worth it to all of us who read them.
    Thank you for everything!

  4. Reba says:

    Amen!! To your daughter’s prayer. Happy Thankgiving.

  5. Aloka says:

    Leaving India and my near and dear ones so many years ago I had to form another family in these shores with my friends – some of whom have become closer than family. With them we celebrate this holiday sometimes with Indian or Chinese food. We have come to realize that "family" actually means taking care of each other, loving, sympathising when things go awry, and above all being thankful that we have each other to lean on.For these gifts we give thanks and also say a prayer for our other families that we have left behind and miss a lot.

  6. Brenda says:

    Thank you for sharing the Thanksgiving song. Very pretty. I have lost one aunt and one uncle and I understand your thoughts. Unfortunately because I want to be here with all my children and grandchildren during the holidays I do not travel to spend them with my family I remember celebrating with when I was a child. I have been thinking I should give up one holiday to do that, how can we be in more than one place? Happy Thanksgiving Rebekah

  7. Carol in NC says:

    Lovely post. Our backgrounds are so similar! There were eight in my father’s family, a ton of cousins, extended family and always an orphan or two. One aunt died this fall not long after her 100th birthday party; she was very vibrant and independent until she fell, and that was that. There are now only three left of the original eight. It’s sad to see it all slipping away, although we are trying really hard to keep it going.
    My prayer is that the younger generation, my kids included, will value family enough to make an effort to maintain relationships with each other, though I honestly don’t see that happening. Everyone is so geographically scattered. Thank heaven for Facebook! At least they are able to keep up with their cousins that way!
    Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!

  8. Debbie says:

    Howdy Rebekah! Your Thanksgiving sounds wonderful! How great to celebrate in the old Farmhouse! My thanksgiving prayer for this year is to continue to find something to be grateful for each day and to help those around me do the same thing!
    Love and thanksgiving wishes!
    your Beachy farmgirl blogging sister!

  9. Libbie says:

    Rebekah, the Thanksgiving Song and the descriptions of the hay ride and pecan-cracking and, well, ALL of it. So lovely. And, yes, a hearty and heart-felt "thank you for everything," is truly my prayer as well. Your daughter had it right on the mark. Much love, xoxo, Libbie

  10. Sandra says:

    I wanted to follow up and let you know I loved discovering your web blog today.

  11. Shery says:

    Oh, your Thanksgiving celebration transported me into such an idyllic setting. For that, I thank YOU. :o) Shery

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Growing Family Ties

This is a two-fer. Two-fer-one. Two totally unrelated topics, squished together in one post.
Topic Number One. Family. What does your family mean to you? Who do you include in the definition of family? And here’s the big question of the day: What do YOU do to nurture your family bond?
I came to the conclusion this week that each family member has a job, a duty. And that’s to nurture the family bond.
But the thing I haven’t figured out is how to do that. We all know that a family is what you make it, right? But specifically. Exactly. Precisely. What? What does each member need to do to help it along?

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  1. Beverly K says:

    When our oldest son started Kindergarten, we instigated no television during the week. It has helped immensely with focusing on the family and helping make evenings less stressful. We also focus on little rituals, like our annual trips to the pumpkin patch, Christmas in the Park, and even local college sporting events. You can create great bonds over a tub of popcorn watching great athletes!

  2. Jerre Petal says:

    I always look forward to your blog Rebekah. Regarding winter gardening, it is the best! I live in Grants Pass, Oregon, zone 7. We garden in raised beds with a very simple tent frame with a plastic sheet thrown over it. I grow all of the greens you mentioned in your post and they are so delectable. I feel so blessed to share my salads with friends and neighbors. It is the most carefree gardening imagineable. If the weather warms up, we have to remember to throw back the plastic sheet as the greens can cook. We do have some severe freezes like down to 15 degrees but it is very occasional and not often. The greens still survive under their mini greenhouse. The bed is 8 feet long by 4′ wide. It really is the way to go for winter salads and braising greens.

  3. Deena says:

    This blog spoke to my heart today. I have been asking these questions and trying to answer them for my own family. Maybe with Thanksgiving coming it is that time of year. I have 4 older children. My daughters are 20, 18, and 17. What makes my life different is: after home schooling my kid for 12 years I returned to Community college 2 years ago when my oldest daughter came to college. The other two are here with us now and I will be taking my exit from homeschooling at the end of the semester.
    I am graduating from college and closing my homeschooling chapter at the same time.
    1) Eating together means sitting in a Fast Food Place and talking to my kids at least once a week
    2)Open communication in the car…if it isn’t pleasant, the driver will not talk, so keep it nice or I clam up…any subject is allowed as long as it is civil
    3)Rituals: Yes, we go to church, but I almost think Starbucks on the first day of November when I can get a Peppermint Mocha sounds like a ritual
    4) The kids talk about their dreams and goals all the time, I think I need to talk to them about mine more too.
    5)Love and Acceptance is a challenge with 3 teenage girls and the 15 year old little brother… sometimes he needs a little more credit for having a brain. Putting him in a public charter school and walking away was a very hard day.
    6)Memories are my favorite thing. It is so funny to me how styles of now are so much like the 70s when I was in their place. I spent the last 20 years trying to make teachable moments and memorable experiences. (Of course, as teenagers they are not always on board for some of the memories I am getting them into)
    7)SMILE! I love that it. A smile can change my mood and hopefully the person I give it to.

    I don’t know if this is something you want to share on your blog, but thanks.

  4. Hi Rebekah, I too have my first asparagus bed, and mine are turning yellow, but everyone I have asked tells me to leave them alone. One person told me they will get berries and feed the birds and then they will eventually die back. If anyone knows any different, please share. I’m excited to see what I have next year. Are you sure your one mystery herb wasn’t catmint??
    And I agree with all your points on having a closer family. It is my prayer that my two sons would grow closer and that we could have some traditions, but everyone lives in different places and everyone seems too busy. Hopefully, one day as they grow older they will want to start some traditions as well. Maybe if they would give me some grandkids, that would help. HA!
    As always, enjoy reading your posts. Be Blessed!

  5. Brenda says:

    Rebekah, no fall/winter garden here. I may not be brave enough but probably without a greenhouse no one here in Michigan would venture there. We have not snow as yet, it is holding off longer than usual. I am not unhappy about that at all. The chickens are enjoying the garden right now. Hubs said one of them actually found some leftover cherry/grape tomatoes and a few late raspberries and was having a feast. The big garden is empty, only dirt and the strawberry bed has gone to sleep.

  6. Pamela says:

    Hey, Rebekah, pretty sure your mysterry herb is not catmint, which looks almost exactly like other mint. We always plant garlic on Halloween, and so I wonder if you still could get some in if you can find some ready to go. I get mine from Farmer Pete at Sandhill Farm in Eden, Utah. It is best to get some from a local farmer so that variety hopefully will do well in your weather. Good luck, and thanks for the thought provoking post.

  7. Linda Carrington says:

    I make breakfast every Sunday. My adult daughters and their husband/partners come over with their dogs. This makes 6 adults, and 5 dogs all together. It’s a great time to try new recipes or enjoy some old ones, and just connect before the work week, starts.

  8. Debbie says:

    Hey Rebekah!
    You are such a hoot! I guess I’ll start from the bottom… Encore Azelea’s? Really? I had no idea they existed… I wonder if we have them in New England… Believe me,when the first ones bloom here in spring it’s almost as good as uh,um,er… finding your next issue of MJF in the mailbox!
    My fall garden is BROWN! So neat you have two gardening seasons there! I’ve recently become interested in hoop houses for extending my own gardening season… Can’t you just see me outside in my snow boots trecking to the hoop house to plant sunflowers and zinnea’s?
    Family Ties: I love your list! Here’s a few more!

    1.Share and support eachother’s dreams!Understand that they are fragile so be careful when a family member shares a BIG IDEA!

    1. Keep a sense of humor.
    2. respect personal boundries.
    3. Do things together. My husband is Treasurer of our son’s Boy Scout Troop, he’s coached baseball and basketball when our son was playing. Our daughter and I took riding lessons for a couple of years together!
    4. Be crafty together! Our daughter and I love being creative and praising eachother’s creations!
    5. Love eachother and cherish eachother and the family unit.
    6. For years we have held Friday night as Family night whether it’s game night, movie, night or just a relaxed pizza and hang out night! It’s our time!
    7. Now, if we could just stop arguing all the time!!! LOL
    Too many Chief’s I think!!! It’s not that bad.. but, we do have our opinions around here, but we have love too!
    Big hug!!!

  9. joy says:

    Hi Rebekah… This is my first time commenting on your blog, but NOT my first time reading it!! 🙂 I also read the "back page" of Mary’s magagazine 😉 Anyway, I was thinking about your comment about "how" to get your children to "like one another"… I noticed when my (4) children were younger, that they re-lated to one another very closely to the way *I* related to THEM– as opposed to the way I was trying to teach *them* to treat one another. And as un-popular as this idea is: ELIMINATE (or at least "cut back") all those sitcoms that use sarcasim ‘and such’ as "humor". Very seldom do you see siblings being "close, caring, and considerate" of each other– or children/parent relations that are good and healthy on these types of shows(IF they do, it’s usually shown as something they are embaressed/ashamed of after a particular incident that occured… and they sure don’t want anyone to know it~ as they "laugh it off"). That’s enough of that soapbox 😉 Have a good day 😀

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