“It’s Okay”: Advice From a 2.5 Year Old

I just wrapped up an after dinner family photo session hosted by the one and only Toddler Farmgirl Ava.  She has a sudden interest in photography, I think it has something to do with her other Babysitter Farmgirl friends who just started Instagram accounts.  Anyway…she was pretending that a clothes hanger was her camera.  She wanted us to give ourselves bunny ears and make funny faces.  We obliged and she snapped away some “pictures.”  It was really great, innocent fun!

Funny face photos on a nature hike!

Funny face photos on a nature hike!

I then asked if she had any other color cameras, maybe a green one?  She replied that all of her other cameras “had clothes hanging on them.”  Hilarious!  The imagination can have its limits, apparently.

Farmgirls Forever!

Farmgirls Forever!

Two and a half is a pretty amazing age so far.  There are a lot of mood swings happening around here, along with testing of wills and boundaries.  Most activities are done “by mineself” while “What you doing? Can I help?” has become the question du jour (however, “but, why?” comes in at a close second).  Ava’s coordination is pretty intricate and improving every day.  We have a balancing yoga routine, she loves walking on curbs and short walls and I bet she could climb her away around most places without touching the floor.  Her imagination is amazingly entertaining.  Yesterday we played “Elephant Family” I was the babysitter elephant.  For some reason the cord for the vacuum cleaner has been a rocket ship for a couple of weeks (?? I have no idea where this came from…I always end up building a new “rocket ship” out of something else because I get paranoid about her playing with a long cord!).  She tells stories about dinosaurs, pigs and babies–they all take a lot of naps; she makes up songs like “Clap, clap, clap your hands! How do you do it? Clap your hands!”;  and she comes up with the funniest names for stuffed animals and imaginary characters like “Snackle” and names that end in -nsk (Fernsk, Planksk, Ourunsk, etc.).

Goofy girl couldn't wait for me to finish slicing the watermelon.

Goofy girl couldn’t wait for me to finish slicing the watermelon.

But, the best part? The best part of being around a 2.5 year old is their language development and usage.

Big Sister Ava taking time out of her busy schedule to tell Opal a story while I play with irrigation lines.

Big Sister Ava taking time out of her busy schedule to tell Opal a story (apparently a serious one…) while I play with irrigation lines.

I know a lot of the phrases she uses are ones that I use often.  In fact, I catch myself using them frequently once she starts to say them regularly.  Her most recent one is “It’s okay, it’s okay!” with the first iteration being reassuring while the second is more assertive or demanding.  I have found myself saying it to a cranky Opal while strapping her into her carseat or changing her diaper.  Ava, however, uses it at the best times.  She said it to me today while trying to detangle drip tape.  It had been tromped on by loose farm animals and then blown around in the wind.  “What you doing? Can I help?”  She asked.  I usually try to find something for her to do because I think she loves the sense of duty, so I had her “help” by holding one of the lines where it was already untangled.  It was at the end of a long, hot harvest day and I was getting obviously frustrated with detangling the lines when I hear, “it’s okay.  Mommy–it’s okay!”.

We could probably take some life advice from babies, too.  It's okay to laugh while you swing!

We could probably take some life advice from babies, too. It’s okay to laugh while you swing!

She was right.  Of course it was okay.  It was more than okay.  I was standing in a beautiful bed of beets, carrots and other roots with my sweet babies on a pleasantly cloudy, breezy evening in Alaska.  I had just finished harvesting fresh, organic vegetables that will go to feed many mouths and nourish many people. We are healthy and safe and have a lot of love to share.  Of course it was okay, I just needed a reminder.

Aren't they purdy?

Aren’t they purdy?

Toddlerhood and childhood are such precious, innocent, fleeting times.  Ava and Opal know nothing of the ills of the world.  Opal is consumed with evermore advanced forms of mobility while Ava’s biggest concern is whether or not we have enough ketchup for the day (she’s an addict).  I’d like to keep it that way for awhile.  They will know of wickedness all to soon… We (mommy and daddy) do talk (sometimes vehemently) about current events, but we don’t stream 24/7 news to completely inundate our psyches!

Hanging out at the farm stand

Hanging out at the farm stand

So, there you go, even while the world seems to be crumbling in some respects–“it’s okay.” You are more than likely okay.  We are going to be okay.  It’s not like we don’t care, in reality there is only so much we can do.  I think every good deed (just like every bad) has a ripple effect in some way.

Big Helper Ava puts broccoli in a customers produce bag.

Big Helper Ava puts broccoli in a customer’s produce bag.

We have many opportunities to make this world better and we are trying to do what we can in our own ways.  I help my friend grow a lot of beautiful produce.  I write letters to representatives.  I make food for new mothers. I teach kids about the natural world.  You might volunteer at the local botanical garden or attend Black Lives Matter rallies.  You might pick up litter on your walks or deliver food to elderly people.  You might just make it a habit to genuinely smile at people who really look like they need it. It is good and necessary to feel and mourn and get angry about recent events, but we also need to take a step back once in a while and get in the mindset of a 2.5 year old: “it’s okay!”  Just don’t let the toddler ego get the best of you (they are the center of the universe, dontcha know!?).

Hiking up McHugh Creek just a few hours before a wildfire started there!  Luckily, we're okay!

Hiking up McHugh Creek just a few hours before a wildfire started there! Luckily, we’re okay!

Until next time, keep embracing that Farmgirl mentality of perseverance, clarity and creativity!  We can do fantastic things in and with this world.  Let’s do it!

It’s okay :)

Sending peace and love from Alaska,

Alex, the Rural Farmgirl

Leave a comment 15 Comments

  1. Carol says:

    I like that mindset. There are days that when I hear the news I am thankful that I am in my little spot in the country and feel at peace knowing that my kids are safe.

  2. Krista says:

    That is some great advice. I needed to be reminded that it really is okay. I have been stressing quite a bit lately and with everything that is going on it’s okay to let go. Our lives can get really busy and crazy, so it’s nice to take a day and enjoy the simple things in life. Thanks for the reminder.
    Your veggies look absolutely beautiful and your daughter is super cute helping out!

  3. Megan says:

    I loved the article. I am a mama of two little boys 3 years and 11 months. I can definitely relate to it. :)

  4. Laura R. says:

    Hi Alex!

    That was an excellent post! Not only because you recorded some of those precious memories of your children’s lives (I wish I had written down some of my treasures from out of the mouths of my babes.), but also your message was inspired. Optimistic, with solution driven ideas, and also gratitude awareness. It’s OK, I love it !!

  5. Janis says:

    Hi Alex, What a treat to read your blog – you have a earth centered gfamily – I am working hard to educate my community re the importance of community gardens to bring everyone together- keeping my fingers crossed in South Carolina

  6. Marilyn says:

    Thank you for sharing this post. Ava is a bright child. Ava and Opal are beautiful. I love hearing about your daughters. God Bless them and keep them safe and happy.
    Marilyn

  7. Becky Bartlett says:

    I am so jealous of your household with toddlers. Watching them grow and learn is so thrilling and remarkable.

    On the other hand, my dear, I am so happy that you recognize and are taking advantage of their efforts.
    Becky

  8. Dori Troutman says:

    Hi Alex,

    I loved seeing the pictures of your girls. That darling little Farmgirl Ava is growing up too fast. And look at Opal sitting up in the garden. What sweet girls!

    Glad you are having such a wonderful summer. Do you ever look forward to winter-time or does it just come way too quickly?

    Hugs,

    – Dori –

  9. Kay Ruh says:

    Thank you, Alex. I agree that our responsibility to help make things better begins by being conscious of the energy we put into our very own spheres.

  10. Susabelle says:

    Oh, those little naked toddler feet on gravel! And we adults can’t even step barefoot on a stick! :) Ava has it right. It’s okay!

  11. Denise Ross says:

    Love the “it’s okay”. So true. I really loved this post. Seeing life from a child’s perspective is very enriching and brings back life to it’s simplest things that are important to our lives. Glad you’re okay too. Have a very happy week. Til next time take care.
    Denise
    Australia

  12. Joan says:

    So nice to read your blog!!! lifted me up – wasn’t really down but your family sure brings joy to my life. God bless.

  13. LaRoyce says:

    Nice…thank you.

  14. Meredith Williams says:

    My daughter is getting ready to start her senior year of high school. My new mantra after reading your post is “it’s okay!” . I am a stressed- out mess over her leaving our safe farm and going out into this crazy world. I will remind myself that it’s okay! Enjoy your girls and this time in their lives, it will go so fast you won’t believe it.❤️

    • Alexandra Wilson says:

      It is okay! I don’t know about having grown up children, but I imagine a calm, confident mama makes for a calm confident kid throughout life. I bet her farm upbringing will shine through as she explores her adulthood! Thanks for checking in

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